> the men are overwhelmingly fit, handsome, and great in general I'm not ashamed to say I've used online dating with great success :) I'm by no means "fit", "h

> the men are overwhelmingly fit, handsome, and great in general I'm not ashamed to say I've used online dating with great success :) I'm by no means "fit", "handsome" or otherwise awesome - and my dating successes before OKCupid amount to very little. However... I'm a pretty nice guy. And a lot of the guys on dating sites, especially those that actively message people, are jerks that no one wants to date. The secret is that many guys are on there because they have no alternative either! As you say, there are many less women on these sites. But when you filter out the creepers and jerks it's probably about even. Everyone I've dated from websites (~6 dates, 2 of which turned into relationships) has said something like "well, I was going to give up on it because everyone was a jerk, but then your message was so nice". The key is to take an interest and be pleasant. It's ridiculous how many doors that opens in real life, let alone online dating! > When you meet online dates, it has to be about dating. Isn't that the appeal? There is none of the "are we on a date" mechanics. Both of you are there looking for something.