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This is the core problem of a dating site: 1. Forging connections between pairs of strangers where they will fall in love, 2. …under conditions of oppressive
by JulianMorrison 14y ago
This is the core problem of a dating site:
1. Forging connections between pairs of strangers where they will fall in love,
2. …under conditions of oppressive patriarchy.
Number 1 is a pretty easy numbers game. for each person, a subset of people match them algorithmically. Another subset will be good matches. If your algorithm doesn't suck, some of the first set overlaps the second.
Number 2 is the problem. If you are asking why women are being swamped with textual street harassment such that the noise quite drowns the signal, why women need pseudonymity and ignorable messaging and no-appeal blocklists, why women get shamed for taking an active role in seeking a date (such as OKC) and don't want to admit it, why Mills & Boon nonsense holds so much cultural sway, and why social proof is the most effective way to get dates, the answer to all of the above is patriarchy. Rapey, commoditizing attitudes to sex are patriarchy. Passive, romance-movie, pedestal-putting, shaming, antisexual attitudes to love are patriarchy.
- jimzvz 14y agoI honestly cannot tell if you are being sarcastic with regards to "Number 2", I hope you are.
- JulianMorrison 14y agoDead serious. Sarcasm set at 0.
- return0 14y agoRight there with you. Patriarchy is placing all the burden of romance, shame, tenderness and gift-giving to us men, while women can get away with commoditizing us like sausages, then raping us. Cruel, cruel world for princes.
- insickness 14y agoI would respond to your comment on a point-by-point basis, but your comment pretty much consisted of one word: patriarchy. If you'd like to make a point, then make a point. Let's hear a solution to the problem. As it stands, you are simply throwing around politically loaded buzz words.
- transitionality 14y agoYou are your own parody. You are living proof of Poe's Law. You are why feminism is now a dirty word and even successful women like Marissa Mayer don't want to be associated with it. Feel proud.
- JulianMorrison 14y agoHeh. When feminism makes people - no lets not concede even that, when it makes MEN angry, it's doing its job. Having unearned, unequal power ripped away from you ought to hurt. But thankfully, as here with dating, there are things that will improve even for men when we've won.
- transitionality 14y agoYour claims are ridiculous and you're bigoted.