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One theory on why the author might be having a little trouble with OkCupid comes down to this sentence: "Unless your parents are Jewish and they threaten to di

by dougk16 14y ago

One theory on why the author might be having a little trouble with OkCupid comes down to this sentence: "Unless your parents are Jewish and they threaten to disown you for not having a Jewish boyfriend...yea, you may not want to message me in that case." I mean, I laughed, it's a funny profile, but ultimately it implies bitterness over your last relationship, which, in my experience, is a turn off for both sexes. Don't get me wrong, everyone's bitter after getting dumped, but your next significant other doesn't want to know about it (at least not at first). In fact, they don't want to know anything about your previous relationship, good or bad, period. EDIT: This actually adds some merit to his idea...his friends would be objective and wouldn't make the same mistake. I'll second the confusion over people thinking there's a stigma to online dating. I thought that was a 90's thing.

gimeq 14y ago
That's actually a common problem, for Jewish people or other people in inward-focused culture X X person meets a non-X, they get along, and then X's parents turn the screws, ruining the relationship.
- dclowd9901 14y ago
  And JDate, BlackPeopleMeet, et al don't solve these culture x problems?
  - Kliment 14y ago
    The problem is not that you can't find someone who is x, the problem is that when you find someone who you want to be with, and you don't give a flying fuck if they are x or non-x, you still get your relationship ruined by other x being dicks to your non-x and to you by extension. That is the problem. And no, those sites do not solve it, if anything they might make it worse. (You should dump your non-x because look how many eligible x there are on xdate.com and xpeoplemeet.com)
mamoswined 14y ago
OKCupid actually has a question that you could use to filter out non-Jewish people or people who want to date only Jewish people. But unfortunately it sounds like she decided it mattered only when the relationship was underway.
- TazeTSchnitzel 14y ago
  Religious differences can sometimes be a convenient excuse to end a relationship, speaking from experience.
ultrasaurus 14y ago
It's at least reflective of his low-filter personality. I'm more surprised that his friend in the linked Grouper article posts a picture and labels one girl as the grenade.

by dougk16 14y ago

gimeq 14y ago

That's actually a common problem, for Jewish people or other people in inward-focused culture X X person meets a non-X, they get along, and then X's parents turn the screws, ruining the relationship.

dclowd9901 14y ago
And JDate, BlackPeopleMeet, et al don't solve these culture x problems?
- Kliment 14y ago
  The problem is not that you can't find someone who is x, the problem is that when you find someone who you want to be with, and you don't give a flying fuck if they are x or non-x, you still get your relationship ruined by other x being dicks to your non-x and to you by extension. That is the problem. And no, those sites do not solve it, if anything they might make it worse. (You should dump your non-x because look how many eligible x there are on xdate.com and xpeoplemeet.com)

mamoswined 14y ago

OKCupid actually has a question that you could use to filter out non-Jewish people or people who want to date only Jewish people. But unfortunately it sounds like she decided it mattered only when the relationship was underway.

TazeTSchnitzel 14y ago
Religious differences can sometimes be a convenient excuse to end a relationship, speaking from experience.

ultrasaurus 14y ago

It's at least reflective of his low-filter personality. I'm more surprised that his friend in the linked Grouper article posts a picture and labels one girl as the grenade.