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Wait, what? My friends might be setting up a profile for me without even knowing it? I sure hope that's qualified by "if I'm signed up", because otherwise I mig

by groby_b 14y ago

Wait, what? My friends might be setting up a profile for me without even knowing it? I sure hope that's qualified by "if I'm signed up", because otherwise I might need to engage in some rage.

derefr 14y ago
They can already matchmake you without you knowing it offline; what's the difference if it's online? Presumably they wouldn't be allowed to use your real name or super-identifying photos or anything, so this "dating persona" they set up from you is divorced from the rest of your identity, and nobody will find it by looking for you.
- safrolic 14y ago
  How would you disallow them to use your name or identifying pictures ? Funny thing is IINM this is probably illegal in several countries around the world, both setting up an online profile for someone else, without his/her knowledge being aggravating, and not providing exact personal information. If my friends did this to me, it would probably put a definitive end to that friendship.
  - derefr 14y ago
    > How would you disallow them to use your name or identifying pictures ? By making it against the TOS of the site, and banning profiles that do it. > probably illegal ... not providing exact personal information. Presumably it's a profile about you, but it's not a profile impersonating you. They don't sign up using your name/birthdate/et al; they have their own account, which they use to fill in the details of your profile. To be clearer: the concept isn't really that you're filling out someone else's profile. Instead, it's more like (exactly like) a "review" site--friends giving "product reviews" of friends, talking about how you should "buy" this friend or that. They just appear without attribution, conglomerated into a "consensus profile" of "what others think about this person." I imagine it's very clear that the person themselves didn't make the profile, any more than hockeyfan3392 on Amazon made the Macbook his review is attached to.
- lobster_johnson 14y ago
  > ... what's the difference if it's online? The difference is that if it's not online, then it's purely interpersonal; a social, private, ephemeral (as in not recorded) sort of activity. But if it's online it's like publishing something in public; it's broadcast to a large number of strangers and it's recorded for a long time. Big difference, I would say.
protomyth 14y ago
I have heard quite a few cases of people setting up profiles on dating sites to "prank" or "actively slander" a person. Trying to get stuff like this resolved is difficult.

by groby_b 14y ago

Wait, what? My friends might be setting up a profile for me without even knowing it? I sure hope that's qualified by "if I'm signed up", because otherwise I might need to engage in some rage.

derefr 14y ago

They can already matchmake you without you knowing it offline; what's the difference if it's online? Presumably they wouldn't be allowed to use your real name or super-identifying photos or anything, so this "dating persona" they set up from you is divorced from the rest of your identity, and nobody will find it by looking for you.

safrolic 14y ago
How would you disallow them to use your name or identifying pictures ? Funny thing is IINM this is probably illegal in several countries around the world, both setting up an online profile for someone else, without his/her knowledge being aggravating, and not providing exact personal information. If my friends did this to me, it would probably put a definitive end to that friendship.
- derefr 14y ago
  > How would you disallow them to use your name or identifying pictures ? By making it against the TOS of the site, and banning profiles that do it. > probably illegal ... not providing exact personal information. Presumably it's a profile about you, but it's not a profile impersonating you. They don't sign up using your name/birthdate/et al; they have their own account, which they use to fill in the details of your profile. To be clearer: the concept isn't really that you're filling out someone else's profile. Instead, it's more like (exactly like) a "review" site--friends giving "product reviews" of friends, talking about how you should "buy" this friend or that. They just appear without attribution, conglomerated into a "consensus profile" of "what others think about this person." I imagine it's very clear that the person themselves didn't make the profile, any more than hockeyfan3392 on Amazon made the Macbook his review is attached to.
lobster_johnson 14y ago
> ... what's the difference if it's online? The difference is that if it's not online, then it's purely interpersonal; a social, private, ephemeral (as in not recorded) sort of activity. But if it's online it's like publishing something in public; it's broadcast to a large number of strangers and it's recorded for a long time. Big difference, I would say.

protomyth 14y ago

I have heard quite a few cases of people setting up profiles on dating sites to "prank" or "actively slander" a person. Trying to get stuff like this resolved is difficult.