Nobody tried to change the debate from "How do we solve gender issues in our community?" to "I don't like how someone tried to solve an issue one time." We can

Nobody tried to change the debate from "How do we solve gender issues in our community?" to "I don't like how someone tried to solve an issue one time." We cannot do both? We cannot discuss gender inequalities in tech AND say that the way Adria Richards handled the situation was not correct? And you're basically saying that we can't criticize a woman's behavior without taking attention away from the sexism debate.