First they came for the penis jokes, and I didn't speak up ... etc etc. This situation touches on subjects that are very emotionally charged and, whatever side

First they came for the penis jokes, and I didn't speak up ... etc etc. This situation touches on subjects that are very emotionally charged and, whatever side one is on, we'll have visceral reactions confounding us. I propose a mental exercise, hoping it would clear the air, if that is possible. Reverse everything having to do with gender and sex about the situation. Eg, two women at a stereotypically women-dominated career conference make a cringe worthy vagina joke. Male activist overhearing them takes offense and goes on public shaming offensive via social media. Is this mirror situation the functional equivalent ? Would it get the same public reaction ? Would the same two people lose their jobs and their reputations ? If no, why not ? If yes, why ? Cui bono ? PS: not disputing anything about the trolls sending threats to Adria Richards. They are the lowest of the low, and their reactions were surely sexist.