The issue is that as a man, you don't have to. I know it seems weird, but as men we have a blind spot -- there's a lot of bullshit we have to deal with, but the

The issue is that as a man, you don't have to. I know it seems weird, but as men we have a blind spot -- there's a lot of bullshit we have to deal with, but there's a lot of bullshit we don't have to deal with by the mere fact that we'r male. Women in technical fields (and nearly every woman in tech whom I've befriended mentions this) get subtle cues that men don't even notice, because we're not the target. (Worst yet is that women have a tendency to do it to each other as well!) It's as if you have the bozo bit dropped on you before you've spoken a word, and you're continually fighting an uphill battle.