That doesn't seem to apply. "Suck it up and deal" wasn't the suggestion, it was a clear case of lack of understanding of the issue. "Suck it up and deal" impl

That doesn't seem to apply. "Suck it up and deal" wasn't the suggestion, it was a clear case of lack of understanding of the issue. "Suck it up and deal" implies that the person acknowledges that there is a problem (something to "suck up") but that it is not very significant and should be ignored. The real problem here is that the "my wife doesn't understand..." statement implies a camaraderie among men to the exclusion of women. And that type of exclusion over time will lead to feelings of unwelcome. Even if there is no direct offense or exclusion intended. This particular issue likely wouldn't be an issue at all if there wasn't such a gender disparity in the first place because it would be more difficult to mistakenly imply exclusion when there is no hint of exclusion in the environment. And that's sometimes the problem with these difficult to appreciate minority issues. It's hard to even understand what the issue is without being part of the minority.