First, nobody cares whether or not she was a she or a he or an it. Her actions were objectively ridiculous and harmful to both general civility and gender relat

First, nobody cares whether or not she was a she or a he or an it. Her actions were objectively ridiculous and harmful to both general civility and gender relations in the community. Largely because SHE made it a gender issue (saving future women programmers? joan of arc?) Second, she wasn't "standing up" for herself because nobody wronged her. Overhearing a third-party say something about a dongle that you construe in a sexual light isn't being wronged, and the world doesn't require you to "stand up" to it.