er, maybe I copy/pasted wrong, and misspoke, a better definition is to replace "designed to" with "has the effect of". I don't think intent is magic and makes e

er, maybe I copy/pasted wrong, and misspoke, a better definition is to replace "designed to" with "has the effect of". I don't think intent is magic and makes everything OK. Context can be important. One of the problems is how often the only type of sex that's discussed us "man does women". You can talk about hetero sex lots by describing lots of different types of sex. It's a problem when the only type of sex is when men are doing the woman. It's wrong to say that men have to be the one 'dominating' and 'doing all the action'. This is harmful to gay men who are receptive in sex, since it's used to justify how "they aren't real men". Likewise it's harmful if women are only seen as sex objects. Things to f*. Rather than people, or even people who can control their own sex lives.