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Even if financial and legal incencives don't matter for you, they do matter for many people. If you start rewarding women with money for dumping their husbands

Even if financial and legal incencives don't matter for you, they do matter for many people. If you start rewarding women with money for dumping their husbands (as vaksel implied US law does), many families that were close to the brink will disintegrate and many okay families will move that much closer to the brink. We don't live in a world composed of ideal men and women - that's why we need laws and money in the first place. I find your comment similar in spirit to a common pattern of defending the C++ language against criticism: the idea that, if C++ shortcomings worry you, then the root of your problem is bad design and muddled thinking. It's true, but the language could work to fix the problem instead of making it worse. So too with divorce laws.

ajju 18y ago
I have no opinion on the quality of US divorce law. I am saying it should be irrelevant to you if you choose your partner wisely - US divorce law cannot and does not supercede an amicable separation agreement between two people. We don't live in a world of ideal people but I have found that there are enough principled people in the world that with some luck and significant effort you should be able to find one who is principled. In the vein of your example, I am saying don't complain about Java's (an unprincipled spouse) performance on Windows (an imperfect legal system), use python instead.
- cousin_it 18y ago
  In my example the unprincipled spouse corresponded to muddled thinking and C++ corresponded to the laws. So your advice of "use Python" translates to "move to another country", quite sensible advice for bachelors in countries where laws favor women. And your own example doesn't parse for me: Java should be faster than Python in most cases. (Yeah, I'm all for bringing the thread back on topic as a programming discussion.) :-)

ajju 18y ago

I have no opinion on the quality of US divorce law. I am saying it should be irrelevant to you if you choose your partner wisely - US divorce law cannot and does not supercede an amicable separation agreement between two people. We don't live in a world of ideal people but I have found that there are enough principled people in the world that with some luck and significant effort you should be able to find one who is principled. In the vein of your example, I am saying don't complain about Java's (an unprincipled spouse) performance on Windows (an imperfect legal system), use python instead.

cousin_it 18y ago
In my example the unprincipled spouse corresponded to muddled thinking and C++ corresponded to the laws. So your advice of "use Python" translates to "move to another country", quite sensible advice for bachelors in countries where laws favor women. And your own example doesn't parse for me: Java should be faster than Python in most cases. (Yeah, I'm all for bringing the thread back on topic as a programming discussion.) :-)