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Hmmm ... if I offer what I believe as a valid criticism (constructively) but it offends someone, they're going to tend to think of me as mean regardless of my i
by smoyer 14y ago
Hmmm ... if I offer what I believe as a valid criticism (constructively) but it offends someone, they're going to tend to think of me as mean regardless of my intention.
But I also think you can offer both compliments and criticism respectfully ... and I think that may be what the writer really wants. What value would there be to a "Show HN" if all you got were platitudes?
As an aside, I quit swearing (completely) when I was 18 or so, because I realized that I knew enough language to articulate my feelings. It's led to people assuming I only have nice things to say when the reality is that I can be (I think) more scathing (in other words, the tone of what you say is important too ... especially on the Internet).
- ScottWhigham 14y ago* Hmmm ... if I offer what I believe as a valid criticism (constructively) but it offends someone, they're going to tend to think of me as mean regardless of my intention.* Just because something offends someone else does not force that person to think of you as "mean". I don't buy into that argument at all. I can be offended but think "That guy's just a jerk - that's the way he is" (jerk != mean). Or I can choose to think, "He maybe was a bit harsh in how he said it, but ultimately his point is correct." You aren't "wrong" in your other ideas, but I just don't agree that offending someone causes them to think you are mean.