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This comment is totally unnecessary given all the caveats downandout made, and as someone who has lived through hard times it upset me to read your comment, alt

This comment is totally unnecessary given all the caveats downandout made, and as someone who has lived through hard times it upset me to read your comment, although I do appreciate the edit that was made.

TallGuyShort 14y ago
Your hard times are only hard relative to that of others, and even then, only in some aspects.
- batiudrami 14y ago
  But we know the human brain doesn't work like that anyway. My life is, in almost all aspects, better than the vast majority of the people in the world, but that doesn't stop my brain from making me feel completely awful when something bad (relatively) happens. Your brain doesn't say 'well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water'.
  - salemh 14y ago
    Locus of perception. Even just being "cold" relative to someone else (temperature). Locus of perception isn't really a "phrase" that is accepted, though it would merit some Cog Psych research to quantify the phenomena above.
  - Jamiecon 14y ago
    > well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water I'm not sure whether it's my brain, or 'me' that's saying it, but this is pretty much what I tell myself every time something 'bad' happens to me. Works like a charm.
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  - tripzilch 14y ago
    > Your brain doesn't say 'well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water'. You should maybe look into getting a more compassionate brain.
    - elbear 14y ago
      In what way is your message to him helpful?
    - batiudrami 14y ago
      That's ridiculous. You've never felt upset about a girl (or guy) , or because you lost your job, or just because you had a shitty day? You can probably rationalise it away as 'well people are worse off than me' but it likely doesn't make you feel a whole bunch better.
      - tripzilch 14y ago
        You're right, I could have worded that differently and better. What I intended to say was that even then, there's usually some thoughts about being happy for the wonderful things I do have, bubbling in the background (not continuously, of course). And like you said, I also try not to go with the "some people have it much worse" line of reasoning.

TallGuyShort 14y ago

Your hard times are only hard relative to that of others, and even then, only in some aspects.

batiudrami 14y ago
But we know the human brain doesn't work like that anyway. My life is, in almost all aspects, better than the vast majority of the people in the world, but that doesn't stop my brain from making me feel completely awful when something bad (relatively) happens. Your brain doesn't say 'well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water'.
- salemh 14y ago
  Locus of perception. Even just being "cold" relative to someone else (temperature). Locus of perception isn't really a "phrase" that is accepted, though it would merit some Cog Psych research to quantify the phenomena above.
- Jamiecon 14y ago
  > well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water I'm not sure whether it's my brain, or 'me' that's saying it, but this is pretty much what I tell myself every time something 'bad' happens to me. Works like a charm.
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- tripzilch 14y ago
  > Your brain doesn't say 'well, you've been fired from the company you worked for for 5 years, but hey, at least you have fresh drinking water'. You should maybe look into getting a more compassionate brain.
  - elbear 14y ago
    In what way is your message to him helpful?
  - batiudrami 14y ago
    That's ridiculous. You've never felt upset about a girl (or guy) , or because you lost your job, or just because you had a shitty day? You can probably rationalise it away as 'well people are worse off than me' but it likely doesn't make you feel a whole bunch better.
    - tripzilch 14y ago
      You're right, I could have worded that differently and better. What I intended to say was that even then, there's usually some thoughts about being happy for the wonderful things I do have, bubbling in the background (not continuously, of course). And like you said, I also try not to go with the "some people have it much worse" line of reasoning.