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a) Are the men who are "soughing after you" as desirable to you as the ones you are after when you take the initiative? b) Are you more nervous when you take t
by auggierose 14y ago
a) Are the men who are "soughing after you" as desirable to you as the ones you are after when you take the initiative?
b) Are you more nervous when you take the initiative yourself?
- Mz 14y agoIn most cases, I was pretty sure they were interested before I decided to bring it up. Me initiating caused back pedaling. So the groups have substantial overlap. The problem seems to very much be that I am not supposed to be proactive, etc. I don't know how to answer that second question. I initiated with my ex husband. We were married more than two decades. But he very likely qualifies for a diagnosis of Asperger's and was often clueless when women flirted with him. More "normal" men seem to be shocked and appalled that I would take an interest in them and express it. As best I can tell, it has nothing to do with me being nervous. As best I can tell, it has to do with being perceived as a dragon lady.