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How to fix low self esteem?

9 points by toutouastro 14y ago

lifeguard 14y ago
1. Pretend / fake it Say things to yourself like "I am nature's greatest miracle!". This is from a Simpsons episode but I find it makes me feel good to say it. Wear nice freshly cleaned clothes when you are in social situations. Spend a lot of money to get a decent hair cut and maintain it by going every month. This will make you look more confident and people will respond to you like you have a dominant personality (an alpha). You are not, but they will treat you like one. 2. BE confident. Clearly and politely state what you want. Be prepared for rejection -- in fact seek rejection out to condition you to not care. Learn to call people by their name. It is music to their ears and they will enjoy your company more. 3. Do something that you feel is risky (but safe), like sky diving or entering a boxing tournament. Hopefully you will survive and you can draw strength in the future from this experience. One of the "secrets" of life is we can pretend to be anything, and the longer we pretend, the more we actually change. Society will reflect back to you what you put out. Look at people and smile, they will start saying "hi" in return.
- shail 14y ago
  nice one
uladzislau 14y ago
Try Rejection Therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy I find it the most difficult but at the same time the most efficient solution for low esteem issue.
impendia 14y ago
Work out. Sign up for classes in kickboxing, Bikram yoga, anything that will kick your ass. On top of what the other commenters said!
josephpmay 14y ago
This TED talk may be useful. (piggybacking on lifeguard's ideas): http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...
Mz 14y ago
Low self esteem is often rooted in a disconnect between perceived ability and actual ability. Seeking some kind of objective measure which gives a clearer idea of where you really stand can be very helpful for some people.
runjake 14y ago
Fake it til you make it. Delude yourself into believing you can do something and you will become capable of doing it.
ssylee 14y ago
I think this may help: http://paidtoexist.com/limiting-beliefs/ http://paidtoexist.com/limiting-beliefs/
dkisit 14y ago
Watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Nx8jMbUW-U http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Nx8jMbUW-U
caitlin12345 14y ago
Change your view on who you think you are. What you think and feel about yourself creates your life. You only have low self-esteem because you have limiting beliefs about who you think you are. Go to WWW.CAITLINWINKLEY.COM to learn how to change your thinking so that you can show up differently in this world as a healthy, happy, secure and confident person.

9 points by toutouastro 14y ago

1. Pretend / fake it Say things to yourself like "I am nature's greatest miracle!". This is from a Simpsons episode but I find it makes me feel good to say it. Wear nice freshly cleaned clothes when you are in social situations. Spend a lot of money to get a decent hair cut and maintain it by going every month. This will make you look more confident and people will respond to you like you have a dominant personality (an alpha). You are not, but they will treat you like one. 2. BE confident. Clearly and politely state what you want. Be prepared for rejection -- in fact seek rejection out to condition you to not care. Learn to call people by their name. It is music to their ears and they will enjoy your company more. 3. Do something that you feel is risky (but safe), like sky diving or entering a boxing tournament. Hopefully you will survive and you can draw strength in the future from this experience. One of the "secrets" of life is we can pretend to be anything, and the longer we pretend, the more we actually change. Society will reflect back to you what you put out. Look at people and smile, they will start saying "hi" in return.

shail 14y ago
nice one

uladzislau 14y ago

Try Rejection Therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy I find it the most difficult but at the same time the most efficient solution for low esteem issue.

impendia 14y ago

Work out. Sign up for classes in kickboxing, Bikram yoga, anything that will kick your ass. On top of what the other commenters said!

josephpmay 14y ago

This TED talk may be useful. (piggybacking on lifeguard's ideas): http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...

Mz 14y ago

Low self esteem is often rooted in a disconnect between perceived ability and actual ability. Seeking some kind of objective measure which gives a clearer idea of where you really stand can be very helpful for some people.

runjake 14y ago

Fake it til you make it. Delude yourself into believing you can do something and you will become capable of doing it.

ssylee 14y ago

I think this may help: http://paidtoexist.com/limiting-beliefs/ http://paidtoexist.com/limiting-beliefs/

dkisit 14y ago

Watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Nx8jMbUW-U http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Nx8jMbUW-U

caitlin12345 14y ago

Change your view on who you think you are. What you think and feel about yourself creates your life. You only have low self-esteem because you have limiting beliefs about who you think you are. Go to WWW.CAITLINWINKLEY.COM to learn how to change your thinking so that you can show up differently in this world as a healthy, happy, secure and confident person.