Cowering to people's expectations of you in hopes that you will impress them really depends on the problem and the person, and can be incredibly degrading and d

Cowering to people's expectations of you in hopes that you will impress them really depends on the problem and the person, and can be incredibly degrading and depressing if you feel you've done the effort to fix your situation and the outcome doesn't change. Personally, I think we already expect too much of people and don't accept variety enough. A girlfriend breaking up with you because "she can't love you for who you are" is a blessing in disguise. Do you really want to check every box on her list.. what was next? Love is not a game of putting each other through some sort of obstacle course to perfection; personal growth is attained through inspiration of the other. Do you really want to keep working at a place that doesn't want you around? Your "real talk" might be offensive in some circles, but it sounds more like day-to-day office life just wasn't in this guy's cards. It takes a wake-up call to pivot your life towards things you should really be doing, not catering yourself to where you've accidentally crash-landed, likely just to pay for one's basic needs. Relationships do not have to be chores. Jobs do not have to be chores. You can find people and places that love you for who you are and wouldn't have you any other way. > Lots of people tell others and themselves “I’m just a disorganized person” or “I get on edge when I get hungry – it just happens” or “I can’t help it if I’m blunt.” > They're wrong. Er.. I don't think any of these are bad things (if not just natural and expected) and if you're judging people by them, maybe you should find some bigger fish to fry.