People are attached to their phones because they are lonely. Instagram, facebook, etc. are so successful because they pluck our "togetherness" chords without an

People are attached to their phones because they are lonely. Instagram, facebook, etc. are so successful because they pluck our "togetherness" chords without any of the complications of actual intimacy. Maybe she couldn't talk about being lonely in a long distance relationship and so she showed you that she was relying on other people for companionship. Maybe you couldn't tell her how much you missed her when she made herself so unavailable, so you talked about how it was "rude" instead. Intimacy is hard, and now it's easier to get some of the brain chemistry of it without all of the vulnerability. I take a picture of something from my life, make it available to you, and you like it with a smile. A thousand small transactions instead of a bigger one (sex, for example). If it makes you feel any better, I almost never experience this problem with the people I care about. I've never had this feeling of frustration about it, certainly. Maybe you just need to find some other people to spend time with.