You can replace with 'the husband' if you prefer. Wasn't trying to objectify anyone. Maybe is the mental translation from Portuguese to English, but when talkin

You can replace with 'the husband' if you prefer. Wasn't trying to objectify anyone. Maybe is the mental translation from Portuguese to English, but when talking about yourself or something related to yourself, to use 'the wife' or 'a esposa' is quite common. Even (direct translation) using 'the woman'/'a mulher' is inferred to be your own wife in casual conversation.