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"No one ever treated them differently that I saw." This is a common and understandable reaction, but it's important to remember how hard it is to be an accurate
by femsoftwareeng 14y ago
"No one ever treated them differently that I saw." This is a common and understandable reaction, but it's important to remember how hard it is to be an accurate observer in these situations. For instance, I have almost never witnessed evidence of racism in my workplaces, and yet I know for a fact that in those places racism was real, common, and huge problem for racial minorities. There are 500 incidents you don't see or maybe notice for every one you do. This is why I didn't really try to answer the last question here: http://femalesoftwareeng.tumblr.com/answers http://femalesoftwareeng.tumblr.com/answers
Another issue is that some places are far more enlightened than others. Gaming companies, for example, tend to be much worse for female developers. So it's very possible you've never worked somewhere that was very bad. Or maybe your coworkers just never spoke up about it for fear of ridicule/backlash.
- NateDad 14y agoThanks for responding to my late addition to the thread. You're right, of course... I may have missed a lot of it. And I haven't worked at gaming companies - not a lot of those in Boston, and the "kill yourself working just to get fired 2 months after launch" thing is not really my cup of tea ;) I'll talk to a couple female ex-coworkers and see what they have to say. I hope I didn't come off as not believing sexism exists in the software world, because I absolutely believe it. Anyway, thanks for bringing this up. I looked through your tumblr, and luckily do not see myself in any of the gaffes that you posted about (but I'll try to keep an eye out for things I or other coworkers might do without realizing). I am saddened that there are so many on the list. I can't believe there are men who still act like that in this day and age.