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I have a speech impediment, fairly low confidence and generally interview fairly badly. The thought of being dropped into a completely new work environment make

by bobsy 14y ago

I have a speech impediment, fairly low confidence and generally interview fairly badly. The thought of being dropped into a completely new work environment makes me a bit anxious. I worry that I will simply exchange my current set of problems for a new set of problems. I am a quiet guy. I took the job because of the fairly low social requirements. I had low confidence with my speech at the time... I find it difficult to express the problem. I worry that a new job - if it has different social requirements - will be a shock to the system and I don't feel I have the support around to help me cope with that. I want, probably need, a new job. I just have no idea about how to go about it to be honest and that puts me off looking.

alanctgardner2 14y ago
I'll probably get flack for this, but have you considered seeing someone about the social anxiety? If you feel like it's limiting your career options, it might be worth seeing a counsellor just to discuss some strategies you can use. I know us developers can get hung up on independent research and solving our own problems, but some problems can be worked out a lot easier with another person, rather than googling. HN gives a weird perspective on what employers expect of developers. I know lots of places where devs aren't expected to be social/growth hacking hustlers who have met the president, etc. Most places just want competent developers, and they're willing to accomodate a lot of the typical geek social anxiety. All this to say, I know it's a scary prospect, but you can change your situation if you try. Whether that's getting some interviews, or seeing someone about your anxiety. Feel free to email me if you want to talk.
- darkxanthos 14y ago
  Yeah.. and I totally feel for this person. I see now it's not actually low cost at all for them. Working on social anxiety will help not just with job finding but also at making your next job fit with yourself much better. Good luck.
hnal943 14y ago
Also you're a whiner.

by bobsy 14y ago

alanctgardner2 14y ago

I'll probably get flack for this, but have you considered seeing someone about the social anxiety? If you feel like it's limiting your career options, it might be worth seeing a counsellor just to discuss some strategies you can use. I know us developers can get hung up on independent research and solving our own problems, but some problems can be worked out a lot easier with another person, rather than googling. HN gives a weird perspective on what employers expect of developers. I know lots of places where devs aren't expected to be social/growth hacking hustlers who have met the president, etc. Most places just want competent developers, and they're willing to accomodate a lot of the typical geek social anxiety. All this to say, I know it's a scary prospect, but you can change your situation if you try. Whether that's getting some interviews, or seeing someone about your anxiety. Feel free to email me if you want to talk.

darkxanthos 14y ago
Yeah.. and I totally feel for this person. I see now it's not actually low cost at all for them. Working on social anxiety will help not just with job finding but also at making your next job fit with yourself much better. Good luck.

hnal943 14y ago

Also you're a whiner.