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The excuse that this person's stalking behavior would be sweet if she were interested is blaming her discomfort/fear on her because she isn't interested, when i
by overgryphon 14y ago
The excuse that this person's stalking behavior would be sweet if she were interested is blaming her discomfort/fear on her because she isn't interested, when in reality no "sweet" guy would act in such a way without clear signs of interest.
The online hacker/development community's continuous excuses and empathy for members of their own community who behave inappropriately towards women makes this a field where prominent women are expected to be harassed on a regular basis.
It isn't even a matter of rejecting the person for bad behavior. You didn't even reject the behavior, you justified it.
- thaumaturgy 14y ago> ...is blaming her discomfort/fear on her because she isn't interested... No, it's not. You misread my comment. > You didn't even reject the behavior, you justified it. HN is large enough now that I can't expect you to know that I've never done any such thing, and in fact have said exactly the opposite pretty frequently.