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"When someone gives me cash, it suggests to me that they haven't put in any effort." Why would you assume someone has to make more than the effort of working f

by xd 14y ago

"When someone gives me cash, it suggests to me that they haven't put in any effort." Why would you assume someone has to make more than the effort of working for a pay check, and then giving you some of that hard earned cash to do with as you please? But then you go on to say; "unless someone is going to give me a life-changing amount of money, they might as well not bother." .. what the hell, dude?

EliRivers 14y ago
"Why would you assume someone has to make more than the effort of working for a pay check, and then giving you some of that hard earned cash to do with as you please?" Did they get up in the morning thinking "today I'm going to work hard so I can give that guy a nice present"? No. At some point they thought they'd better give me something, and reached for the easiest, most convenient thing they had. Some money. The bare minimum of thought went into it. Why do I want more than the bare minimum of thought? Because that's what friends do. More than the bare minimum. I spend hours and hours, sometimes spread over several weeks, thinking about and finding great gifts for people, because I genuinely like seeing my friends made happy by unexpectedly receiving something they'll really get a lot of pleasure out of. " "unless someone is going to give me a life-changing amount of money, they might as well not bother." .. what the hell, dude?" What? What's not to understand? Someone gives me a twenty. I already have a twenty. I have more than one. If there was something I wanted to buy with it, I already would have. Unless I'm living at the point where I am right on the breadline, one grocery bill from poverty, I won't even notice it (as above, it'll go into the pot marked "money" and just go on some bill or some tax or the rent or whatever). Sad but true; I have made enough to comfortably pay my bills with some left over. If they had stopped off somewhere and spent a five on something they really know I'd like, something that required them to think and spend some time, it would show real effort on my behalf. Sometimes the clichés are true; it's the thought that counts.
- stephenr 14y ago
  So giving you $50 cash is lazy but buying you $50 of fucking juice is a well thought out present? Or giving you $50 to spend in a department store is better than $50 cash you can spend anywhere. It isn't more personal its just more restricted. Gift cards are like food stamps for middle class people. You may as well include a note saying "now don't you spend this on drugs".

by xd 14y ago

EliRivers 14y ago

"Why would you assume someone has to make more than the effort of working for a pay check, and then giving you some of that hard earned cash to do with as you please?" Did they get up in the morning thinking "today I'm going to work hard so I can give that guy a nice present"? No. At some point they thought they'd better give me something, and reached for the easiest, most convenient thing they had. Some money. The bare minimum of thought went into it. Why do I want more than the bare minimum of thought? Because that's what friends do. More than the bare minimum. I spend hours and hours, sometimes spread over several weeks, thinking about and finding great gifts for people, because I genuinely like seeing my friends made happy by unexpectedly receiving something they'll really get a lot of pleasure out of. " "unless someone is going to give me a life-changing amount of money, they might as well not bother." .. what the hell, dude?" What? What's not to understand? Someone gives me a twenty. I already have a twenty. I have more than one. If there was something I wanted to buy with it, I already would have. Unless I'm living at the point where I am right on the breadline, one grocery bill from poverty, I won't even notice it (as above, it'll go into the pot marked "money" and just go on some bill or some tax or the rent or whatever). Sad but true; I have made enough to comfortably pay my bills with some left over. If they had stopped off somewhere and spent a five on something they really know I'd like, something that required them to think and spend some time, it would show real effort on my behalf. Sometimes the clichés are true; it's the thought that counts.

stephenr 14y ago
So giving you $50 cash is lazy but buying you $50 of fucking juice is a well thought out present? Or giving you $50 to spend in a department store is better than $50 cash you can spend anywhere. It isn't more personal its just more restricted. Gift cards are like food stamps for middle class people. You may as well include a note saying "now don't you spend this on drugs".