I agree. For the IRC folks, I think contacting the police and his family was appropriate. I don't think anything further then that is appropriate or helpful.

I agree. For the IRC folks, I think contacting the police and his family was appropriate. I don't think anything further then that is appropriate or helpful. Everything after that is just gossip. I'd be interested to hear how the OP feels in retrospect, and if spreading this around helped even slightly. I would doubt it, but I'd be happy to be proven wrong. I think it's important to remember that the Internet is not real life. It is fantasy. How else do you explain lulz?