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As someone who spent six years trying to conceive and failed, reading this post makes me feel really bad. I'd point out that it's not Hacker News, but I'd have

by diego 14y ago

As someone who spent six years trying to conceive and failed, reading this post makes me feel really bad. I'd point out that it's not Hacker News, but I'd have to do that for 50% of the posts on the front page at any given time.

orangethirty 14y ago
I'm sorry that you have gone through this.
yarou 14y ago
Have you thought about fertility and genetic counseling? (apologies if you already have, I realize this is a very personal and sensitive subject). For what it's worth, my parents conceived twice before I was born, both miscarriages, yet I turned out alright.
- diego 14y ago
  I've done everything you can think of and more. We actually conceived once, it was a miscarriage. Edit: if you really want to know, we fertilized a total of 19 embryos in 4 attempts over the years. Only two of those were deemed implantable by the PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) and both failed to implant. Each time it was a two-week wait between implantation and learning about the failure, knowing that there was a 50/50 chance. Imagine flipping a coin that will be up in the air for two weeks. It cost you $20k, dozens of injections, tests, trips to the clinic, and general anguish to earn that coin toss.
  - johnnyn 14y ago
    Sorry to hear about all of your troubles Diego. Wishing you the best and hope it works out at some point. I've had quite a few friends go through the very same thing (fertility treatments, miscarriages) -- such difficult experiences.
Tyrant505 14y ago
Does trying and failing to conceive create a job-like mentality to sex life? I know it's personal.. but for an aside sex as a task happens to a lot of relationships, without these troubles. Sorry for your troubles.
- diego 14y ago
  All you ever wanted to know and more: http://www.twoweekwait.com/articles/what-no-one-told-you-about-trying-to-conceive http://www.twoweekwait.com/articles/what-no-one-told-you-abo... (from www.reddit.com/r/infertility )

by diego 14y ago

orangethirty 14y ago

I'm sorry that you have gone through this.

yarou 14y ago

Have you thought about fertility and genetic counseling? (apologies if you already have, I realize this is a very personal and sensitive subject). For what it's worth, my parents conceived twice before I was born, both miscarriages, yet I turned out alright.

diego 14y ago
I've done everything you can think of and more. We actually conceived once, it was a miscarriage. Edit: if you really want to know, we fertilized a total of 19 embryos in 4 attempts over the years. Only two of those were deemed implantable by the PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) and both failed to implant. Each time it was a two-week wait between implantation and learning about the failure, knowing that there was a 50/50 chance. Imagine flipping a coin that will be up in the air for two weeks. It cost you $20k, dozens of injections, tests, trips to the clinic, and general anguish to earn that coin toss.
- johnnyn 14y ago
  Sorry to hear about all of your troubles Diego. Wishing you the best and hope it works out at some point. I've had quite a few friends go through the very same thing (fertility treatments, miscarriages) -- such difficult experiences.

Tyrant505 14y ago

Does trying and failing to conceive create a job-like mentality to sex life? I know it's personal.. but for an aside sex as a task happens to a lot of relationships, without these troubles. Sorry for your troubles.

diego 14y ago
All you ever wanted to know and more: http://www.twoweekwait.com/articles/what-no-one-told-you-about-trying-to-conceive http://www.twoweekwait.com/articles/what-no-one-told-you-abo... (from www.reddit.com/r/infertility )