I just said that the colour of a speaker's skin or gender may not matter. I agree with you that it ought not to matter. As to my post, what I would say is that

I just said that the colour of a speaker's skin or gender may not matter. I agree with you that it ought not to matter. As to my post, what I would say is that you and I are having a productive conversation in part neither of us is labelling the other as overreacting. Instead, we're trading viewpoints and questions.