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accidentally being an asshole Is it just me or does this blog post just make this guy look like an even bigger asshole?

by fletchowns 14y ago

gruseom 14y ago
Lots of us are accidental assholes sometimes, if it means hurting someone's feelings without meaning to.
- niggler 14y ago
  He was not being an accidental asshole. It's not just about hurting a person's feelings. 140 character limit aside, there are better ways of expressing your criticism without derision, and its better for the community if we try to maintain some decorum.
  - gruseom 14y ago
    Who's arguing for derision and indecorum? I find it easy to identify with a guy who screws up, hurts someone's feelings, and then trips over himself trying to make it better because he feels bad.
    - niggler 14y ago
      Accidental asshole isn't a real concept. I highly doubt any of the people would have reacted differently in person, for example. The character traits that we ascribe as being an asshole are developed over many days, during which many of the reactions are intentional.
jimmyjazz14 14y ago
an accidental asshole is still an asshole. Seriously making excuses just makes you seem worse.
- deleted 14y ago
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eksith 14y ago
Yes. Yes it does. As the biggest one on TV (House) would say: "People don't change". This is one of the many reasons I can't stand being in this business. Computers tend to have a dehumanizing effect on people. Just the fact that people only see code and not the actual person behind the code leads to the kind of mocking that should be reserved for inanimate objects directed at flesh and blood. Apologizing (or in this case, fake semi-apologizing) doesn't make someone less of an ass. They may have to "act" less of an ass in order to make the apology seem legitimate.
Cushman 14y ago
Perhaps we should instead use the term negligent assholery, so as not to ignore fault.
chris_wot 14y ago
Not really. He's said sorry, unreservedly. He's explained that he messed up, and that it really wasn't what he meant to say at all. I think that it's fair enough to disagree with something, just the way you say it is important.

accidentally being an asshole Is it just me or does this blog post just make this guy look like an even bigger asshole?

gruseom 14y ago

Lots of us are accidental assholes sometimes, if it means hurting someone's feelings without meaning to.

niggler 14y ago
He was not being an accidental asshole. It's not just about hurting a person's feelings. 140 character limit aside, there are better ways of expressing your criticism without derision, and its better for the community if we try to maintain some decorum.
- gruseom 14y ago
  Who's arguing for derision and indecorum? I find it easy to identify with a guy who screws up, hurts someone's feelings, and then trips over himself trying to make it better because he feels bad.
  - niggler 14y ago
    Accidental asshole isn't a real concept. I highly doubt any of the people would have reacted differently in person, for example. The character traits that we ascribe as being an asshole are developed over many days, during which many of the reactions are intentional.

jimmyjazz14 14y ago

an accidental asshole is still an asshole. Seriously making excuses just makes you seem worse.

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eksith 14y ago

Yes. Yes it does. As the biggest one on TV (House) would say: "People don't change". This is one of the many reasons I can't stand being in this business. Computers tend to have a dehumanizing effect on people. Just the fact that people only see code and not the actual person behind the code leads to the kind of mocking that should be reserved for inanimate objects directed at flesh and blood. Apologizing (or in this case, fake semi-apologizing) doesn't make someone less of an ass. They may have to "act" less of an ass in order to make the apology seem legitimate.

Cushman 14y ago

Perhaps we should instead use the term negligent assholery, so as not to ignore fault.

chris_wot 14y ago

Not really. He's said sorry, unreservedly. He's explained that he messed up, and that it really wasn't what he meant to say at all. I think that it's fair enough to disagree with something, just the way you say it is important.