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The whole premise of your post...little introspection...serious personality disorder Hate to point this out, but by your own admission, you're the one witho

by temphn 14y ago

The whole premise of your post...little introspection...serious personality disorder Hate to point this out, but by your own admission, you're the one without the girlfriend and with pathologies. Maybe that sensitive guy shtick ain't working so good. I don't mean that in a bad way, I mean it as a statement of something you might not realize. Anyway, it's not your whole life, but if & when you want to attract women you are going to put in effort. That effort should be effective; game is about what works. Go ahead though and be a sensitive and non-assertive man who sees counselors and isn't interested in manliness etcetera, no one is stopping you. Or run the experiment, try heartiste.wordpress.com's 16 commandments for three months, and see what happens. We'll be rooting for you.

alanctgardner2 14y ago
> you're the one without the girlfriend and with pathologies If I was trying to have a girlfriend, I would have stayed with my girlfriend. Once again, you're a man who defines his whole life in terms of women. Have you ever been single for a significant length of time, or did you fall in love with the first girl you saw and get 'married young'? > if & when you want to attract women you are going to put in effort Nope. If I have to jump through hoops to get a woman to notice me, I'm going to spend my whole life jumping through more hoops to get her to keep noticing me. Instead, I do things I enjoy, and I meet people. Some of them are men, some of them are women, and I treat them the same way. If I get to know a woman, and she's interesting/funny/attractive, I ask her out. Period. No games, no fucking around spraying myself with cologne and putting her down to increase my chances. > That effort should be effective; game is about what works I don't really understand 'effective', nor the three month promise. What'll happen in three months? Some women who are superficially attractive will be interested in me? Will I have to pretend to be interested in them because we have no common interests or basis for a real connection? No thanks. > I don't mean that in a bad way Yes, you absolutely do. The difference between calling my personality a shtick, and me recommending a counselor is miles. When I say 'I don't mean that in a bad way', it's because I'm against the stigmatization of mental illness. Everyone has some baggage that talking to a professional would help them unload, and the world would be happier for it. From the description of your relationship it sounds like you're used to passive aggressive people, I'd like to offer this for your consideration - not everyone interacts like that. Some of us just say what we're thinking, plainly and clearly.

by temphn 14y ago

alanctgardner2 14y ago

> you're the one without the girlfriend and with pathologies If I was trying to have a girlfriend, I would have stayed with my girlfriend. Once again, you're a man who defines his whole life in terms of women. Have you ever been single for a significant length of time, or did you fall in love with the first girl you saw and get 'married young'? > if & when you want to attract women you are going to put in effort Nope. If I have to jump through hoops to get a woman to notice me, I'm going to spend my whole life jumping through more hoops to get her to keep noticing me. Instead, I do things I enjoy, and I meet people. Some of them are men, some of them are women, and I treat them the same way. If I get to know a woman, and she's interesting/funny/attractive, I ask her out. Period. No games, no fucking around spraying myself with cologne and putting her down to increase my chances. > That effort should be effective; game is about what works I don't really understand 'effective', nor the three month promise. What'll happen in three months? Some women who are superficially attractive will be interested in me? Will I have to pretend to be interested in them because we have no common interests or basis for a real connection? No thanks. > I don't mean that in a bad way Yes, you absolutely do. The difference between calling my personality a shtick, and me recommending a counselor is miles. When I say 'I don't mean that in a bad way', it's because I'm against the stigmatization of mental illness. Everyone has some baggage that talking to a professional would help them unload, and the world would be happier for it. From the description of your relationship it sounds like you're used to passive aggressive people, I'd like to offer this for your consideration - not everyone interacts like that. Some of us just say what we're thinking, plainly and clearly.