That's fine when you're talking in generalities (actually its not its pretty blinkered) but if you're talking about your wife, you're talking about A WOMAN not

That's fine when you're talking in generalities (actually its not its pretty blinkered) but if you're talking about your wife, you're talking about A WOMAN not WOMEN. So you don't need to appeal to the general woman you need to appeal to your specific woman, the best way to do that is to communicate with her. I can't imagine playing some silly guessing game where I try to intuit what she wants. I've been married for 10 years, it seems to me that your advice would apply mostly to people in the first 2 years of a relationship. EDIT - ok so I just read some of the article you linked, I can't really fathom anything about that, I couldn't ever be in a relationship like the ones described so I guess I'm not qualified to comment on how to fix a relationship like that. My relationship is a partnership - not to say that we're equal in every way, we each excel in different areas and support each other as needed. That said, I still don't think that advice is applicable to a lot of people, going from being a doormat to a arrogant alpha seems pretty extreme and likely to undermine the basis of whatever the relationship was founded on (assuming it was founded on something like her being a demanding princess and you being a cringing sycophant)