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You know, there's a difference between 'introverts' and 'extraverts'; those people who stand around and feel awkward if no one is saying anything? You know? Th
by shadowmint 14y ago
You know, there's a difference between 'introverts' and 'extraverts'; those people who stand around and feel awkward if no one is saying anything?
You know? The ones who want to talk to you in elevators? Or just come and stand next your desk while you're trying to do work and talk? All socionormative, smile and handshake?
Maybe you should watch this:
http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts....
Here's a thing: If I dont know you, and you want a conversation, catch my eye. If I smile, sure, lets chat.
If I look away, look at my phone, stare out the window.
dont talk to me
Your social obligation to engage is unwelcome
In all seriousness; you need to re-evaluate if you honestly believe "People love being bothered by strangers."
Some people may; many do not. You enjoy bothering strangers. There's a difference.
- seldo 14y agoI regret that I have but one upvote to give.
- rglullis 14y agoThing is, introverts are vastly outnumbered in society. So while his statement is generalizing, it is a good approximation to Facebook's population. So, for Facebook it doesn't matter. As they always do, first they create something that is seen as violating people's notion of privacy. Then they add some form of setting that allows the introverts and control-freaks like you and me that makes it enough for us to not abandon the site, but at the same time allows to still be users. Also, there is something funny about how you mention not liking to be bothered by strangers in an Internet forum with 10^6 users, but I digress.
- shadowmint 14y agohttp://www.quietlyfabulous.com/2011/01/06/introverts-arent-a-minority/ http://www.quietlyfabulous.com/2011/01/06/introverts-arent-a... Here's the cliff notes: “But in 1998, researchers were finally able to do what Isabel Briggs Myers could not: an actual population study. The study was based on a national representative sample – 3,009 randomly selected individuals – which, through weighting of underrepresented groups, was made to approximate the distribution of the 1990 U.S. Census. The findings were clear: introverts and extroverts are equally represented in the population.” (emphasis in original)
- thesz 14y agohttp://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/302696/ http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-f... One fourth to a less than a half is not "vastly outnumbered". PS Or even slightly more than a half: http://www.thoughtful-self-improvement.com/percentage-of-introverts.html http://www.thoughtful-self-improvement.com/percentage-of-int...
- ibrahima 14y agoHonestly, I consider myself extremely introverted, and I do all those things to avoid talking to people, but I kind of wish I didn't. I actually like random people talking to me about random things.
- gizzlon 14y agoMaybe you're not really that introvert, only a little shy? (yes, I think there's a difference :)
- depr 14y agoI don't think being an introvert means you don't like talking to people.
- ibrahima 14y agoI am definitely extremely shy (in person), but I think I'm also very introverted but wish I wasn't.
- ibrahima 14y agoI am definitely extremely shy (in person), but I think I'm also very introverted but wish I wasn't.
- prawks 14y agoThere's no need to attack him because you assume that he's not empathetic to others or is incapable of reading body language. I really hope this "introvert fad" slows down soon. There's no need to be so radical, there's a spectrum of personality types. It's not black and white. I identify as an introvert. Social situations exhaust me, so I enjoy them sparingly. If someone makes a funny comment to me in the elevator, I'll laugh and it's okay. I don't rant to him about my being a recluse.