I'm not against accountability, and I'm not criticizing you wanting to focus on change. If you have no patience for other people, some of whom are still simply

I'm not against accountability, and I'm not criticizing you wanting to focus on change. If you have no patience for other people, some of whom are still simply upset (I've moved on, I'm just commenting), that also doesn't mean you have to wait for them any more than you have to resent them for being in a different stage of grief, or dismiss their progress because it's not your progress. "Bleeding hearts" aren't really stopping any of the discussions you want... You are still free to start them; they might not even happen without you. Calling people names ("bleeding hearts") might, however, discourage others from participating with you in the discussions you want to happen.