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> This is huge. Huge! Quite the opposite, in my opinion. People don't like being bothered by strangers on Facebook. It's weird and creepy, especially so when i

> This is huge. Huge! Quite the opposite, in my opinion. People don't like being bothered by strangers on Facebook. It's weird and creepy, especially so when it's a guy contacting a girl. This could be seen as a disincentive to share if you don't want your face popping up on search results for people outside your immediate network. It also makes friends who are ignorant or careless about privacy more of a liability. If they tag you in something that's set to 'public', that thing could now be seen by far more strangers far more frequently. There's no good solution to this: You can harrass your friends about their tagging habits, waste countless hours un-tagging yourself every month, or delete your profile altogether. I could see it being useful if you could give it commands. Something like: "Invite all friends who like Game of Thrones to my Game of Thrones Event on Sunday at 8PM". Then again, that could just increase the amount of noise on Facebook and drive people away even faster.

xk_id 14y ago
I kindof get the feeling facebook conveys an autistic interpretation of human social interactions.
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- aroman 14y ago
  At first I read that as altruistic, and I was going to agree. In fact, I think that's a more accurate statement than autistic... or perhaps just more optimistic.
- mej10 14y ago
  "Autistic Social Software" http://www.danah.org/papers/Supernova2004.html http://www.danah.org/papers/Supernova2004.html Doesn't talk about FB, as it wasn't yet a dominant force yet.
taligent 14y ago
>Then again, that could just increase the amount of noise on Facebook and drive people away even faster. How is this any different to just creating an event normally ?
keammo1 14y ago
>If they tag you in something that's set to 'public', that thing could now be seen by far more strangers far more frequently. There's no good solution to this: You can harrass your friends about their tagging habits, waste countless hours un-tagging yourself every month, or delete your profile altogether. You can also change your profile settings so you have to approve all posts you are tagged in before the tag can be viewed by the public. I've found this to work a lot better for me than untagging
ktrgardiner 14y ago
This is exactly what I was thinking. I had about 5 seconds of thinking that this was very intriguing. But then I stopped thinking about it abstractly and imagined it in the context of my life. I just can't think of any situation where my desire to connect with a stranger would be stronger than my aversion to attempting to do so. I feel awkward, creepy, and a little unsafe just imagining it. And the feeling is multiplied when I imagine being on the other end.
spindritf 14y ago
> People don't like being bothered by strangers People love being bothered by strangers. Just try it. Make any half-funny observation about the world around you to a random stranger in the line, at the hairdresser... just not when they're actively doing something. Weather the surprise, repeat what you said if necessary, allow them to come up with a response. If they don't, follow through yourself. At first it seems like you're a crazy person talking at others. But after a minute (though it'll feel like a little longer) most people will happily talk to you. And don't think of it as "bothering". You're diverting your precious attention to them. The thing that every website and channel on the planet wants from you. That used to be just normal, polite behaviour BTW.
- Angostura 14y ago
  > At first it seems like you're a crazy person talking at others. But after a minute (though it'll feel like a little longer) most people will happily talk to you. Yes - but if you watch very carefully you'll notice their eyes darting nervously about, trying to find the nearest exit, and a small frown appear as they attempt to calculate the whether staying in the line is worth it, and the likelihood of you attempting to sell them something or attempt violence if you make your excuses. In other words - if some random guy starts talking to you in a line, you will tend to make small-talk in return. Whether you like it or not.
  - encoderer 14y ago
    You just sound bitter. .... Wait for it :) Edit: I'll take your downvotes, but know that there's a joke there you're just not getting.
  - StavrosK 14y ago
    That is not my experience at all. Sure, some people will feel uncomfortable, but it shows right away, and I stop. Some people are more open and return the joke, keep the conversation going, etc That's always nice, for everyone involved (or so I like to think).
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Angostura 14y ago
I seem to recall that many moons ago, I set up my privacy settings to prevent others from tagging me in photos. Revisiting it just now, the options in that section of Privacy are now fairly byzantine, but I think I still have it locked down :-)
gambomb 14y ago
>People don't like being bothered by strangers on Facebook This is true, however the fact that you can search friends of friends means you can look for people you might want to get to know better, and get introduced via your mutual friend. Or be bold and just send them a friend request with a little note, etc. A friend of a friend is less of a random person than the current facebook search which is actually random. Obviously it will be abused by some, however I think it is a pretty big deal as a feature
quattrofan 14y ago
I came here to say the same thing, I've been actively reducing my time on FB the last year. Now I will be increasing it further.
Julianhearn 14y ago
Isn't there already a social network for meeting new people, http://www.tagged.com/ http://www.tagged.com/ Plus there was anybeat.com - which got shut down http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-anybeat-is-getting-bought-and-shut-down-dmitry-shapiro-going-to-google/ http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-an...
Julianhearn 14y ago
Isn't there already a social network for meeting new people, http://www.tagged.com/ http://www.tagged.com/ Plus there was anybeat.com - which got shut down http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-anybeat-is-getting-bought-and-shut-down-dmitry-shapiro-going-to-google/ http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-an...

xk_id 14y ago

I kindof get the feeling facebook conveys an autistic interpretation of human social interactions.

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aroman 14y ago
At first I read that as altruistic, and I was going to agree. In fact, I think that's a more accurate statement than autistic... or perhaps just more optimistic.
mej10 14y ago
"Autistic Social Software" http://www.danah.org/papers/Supernova2004.html http://www.danah.org/papers/Supernova2004.html Doesn't talk about FB, as it wasn't yet a dominant force yet.

taligent 14y ago

>Then again, that could just increase the amount of noise on Facebook and drive people away even faster. How is this any different to just creating an event normally ?

keammo1 14y ago

>If they tag you in something that's set to 'public', that thing could now be seen by far more strangers far more frequently. There's no good solution to this: You can harrass your friends about their tagging habits, waste countless hours un-tagging yourself every month, or delete your profile altogether. You can also change your profile settings so you have to approve all posts you are tagged in before the tag can be viewed by the public. I've found this to work a lot better for me than untagging

ktrgardiner 14y ago

This is exactly what I was thinking. I had about 5 seconds of thinking that this was very intriguing. But then I stopped thinking about it abstractly and imagined it in the context of my life. I just can't think of any situation where my desire to connect with a stranger would be stronger than my aversion to attempting to do so. I feel awkward, creepy, and a little unsafe just imagining it. And the feeling is multiplied when I imagine being on the other end.

spindritf 14y ago

> People don't like being bothered by strangers People love being bothered by strangers. Just try it. Make any half-funny observation about the world around you to a random stranger in the line, at the hairdresser... just not when they're actively doing something. Weather the surprise, repeat what you said if necessary, allow them to come up with a response. If they don't, follow through yourself. At first it seems like you're a crazy person talking at others. But after a minute (though it'll feel like a little longer) most people will happily talk to you. And don't think of it as "bothering". You're diverting your precious attention to them. The thing that every website and channel on the planet wants from you. That used to be just normal, polite behaviour BTW.

Angostura 14y ago
> At first it seems like you're a crazy person talking at others. But after a minute (though it'll feel like a little longer) most people will happily talk to you. Yes - but if you watch very carefully you'll notice their eyes darting nervously about, trying to find the nearest exit, and a small frown appear as they attempt to calculate the whether staying in the line is worth it, and the likelihood of you attempting to sell them something or attempt violence if you make your excuses. In other words - if some random guy starts talking to you in a line, you will tend to make small-talk in return. Whether you like it or not.
- encoderer 14y ago
  You just sound bitter. .... Wait for it :) Edit: I'll take your downvotes, but know that there's a joke there you're just not getting.
- StavrosK 14y ago
  That is not my experience at all. Sure, some people will feel uncomfortable, but it shows right away, and I stop. Some people are more open and return the joke, keep the conversation going, etc That's always nice, for everyone involved (or so I like to think).
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Angostura 14y ago

I seem to recall that many moons ago, I set up my privacy settings to prevent others from tagging me in photos. Revisiting it just now, the options in that section of Privacy are now fairly byzantine, but I think I still have it locked down :-)

gambomb 14y ago

>People don't like being bothered by strangers on Facebook This is true, however the fact that you can search friends of friends means you can look for people you might want to get to know better, and get introduced via your mutual friend. Or be bold and just send them a friend request with a little note, etc. A friend of a friend is less of a random person than the current facebook search which is actually random. Obviously it will be abused by some, however I think it is a pretty big deal as a feature

quattrofan 14y ago

I came here to say the same thing, I've been actively reducing my time on FB the last year. Now I will be increasing it further.

Julianhearn 14y ago

Isn't there already a social network for meeting new people, http://www.tagged.com/ http://www.tagged.com/ Plus there was anybeat.com - which got shut down http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-anybeat-is-getting-bought-and-shut-down-dmitry-shapiro-going-to-google/ http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-an...

Julianhearn 14y ago