> there is a strong taboo against men appearing out of control of themselves Exactly. This applied to Aaron asking for help he badly needed for his legal fund.

> there is a strong taboo against men appearing out of control of themselves Exactly. This applied to Aaron asking for help he badly needed for his legal fund. This did not apply to Larry or Cory. They may have been sad or angry, but they were not personally scared, threatened, unable to fund their own legal defenses, etc., so they did not violate the taboo. Their posts were more along the lines of a father mourning a lost son. Emotion is expected there.