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> It sounds like he grew up in a two career family where no one was paying much attention to anything he did. What if his parents stopped paying attention beca
by acuozzo 14y ago
> It sounds like he grew up in a two career family where no one was paying much attention to anything he did.
What if his parents stopped paying attention because he wanted absolutely nothing to do with them and made it known?
That's how I started treating my parents (one career household: pop worked; mom did everything else) at twelve years old and it wore them down after four years. I still feel quite guilty about it, as they were and are excellent parents.
- Mz 14y agoWell, I would personally still view that as a failure on the parents part. My youngest is extremely introverted. He would put an axe through my face if I doted on him like I doted on his older brother. I learned to respect his need for space at a very early age, when he was a toddler. He shares with me when he damn well feels like it. But we still have a good relationship, because I realized he was different from me and from his brother. Giving him his space was unnatural for me. Doting was easier. But he still loves me because I didn't dote. I backed off. But I seem to have crazy good parenting instincts. So my high expectations are probably a tad unreasonable in some sense.