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I can definitely relate to the author. I first found porn at the age of 14. I'm 29 now, and until recently, porn has always been something I've "struggled wit
by notdonspaulding 14y ago
I can definitely relate to the author. I first found porn at the age of 14. I'm 29 now, and until recently, porn has always been something I've "struggled with".
I've seen several comments that have opposed what I would call the Church & Moral perspective on porn, without really having an example of what that perspective is. Let me put forth a few claims, so those of you who would disagree with them have something concrete to which to attach your arguments.
FWIW, I'm a religious person. I've been married for 9 years, and I've only ever been physically intimate with my wife. I accept that that deeply colors my perception of the world and this issue specifically.
Here are my claims:
- Porn is designed to be "used" by an individual to satisfy themselves sexually.
- Especially when encountered at a formative age (such as the author's and my own), porn greatly influences your perception of "good sex".
- Pornography and sexual intimacy are diametrically opposed.
- Sexual intimacy is more satisfying, on the whole, than porn.
- There is no such thing as "harmless porn".
Finally, a standing invitation. If you ever want more information on the mainstream evangelical Christian viewpoint on pornography, or my viewpoint specifically, feel free to email me at donspauldingii at googlemail dot com
- lucian1900 14y agoWell, your claims are largely silly. While much porn isn't of particularly good quality, lots of porn is designed for couples. And it's great! You should try it with your wife. Again, you've been watching the wrong porn. Plenty depicts beautiful sexual intimacy.
- notdonspaulding 14y agoWhile I don't see how you've refuted any of my claims specifically, I will address your assertion that I should try porn with my wife. Having used porn myself for the majority of my life, and for almost the entirety of my marriage, I have quite a number of empirical data points of its affects on me and my sexuality. I will say that my wife and I need much less of the influence of porn on our sex life, not more.
- illuminate 14y ago"While I don't see how you've refuted any of my claims specifically" Your anecdotes don't require disproving. They are just your anecdotes about your particular personality and calling them "empirical" does not give them any more expandability to the whole.
- notdonspaulding 14y agoWhat I offered as claims of the moral/religious position were separate from what I explained my own anecdotal experiences to be. I'm sorry I didn't draw a more clear distinction there. My "empirical" remark was simply to explain that I have enough knowledge about myself to draw the conclusion that engaging in pornography would not help my marriage. I wasn't expanding it to the whole in any way there.
- illuminate 14y agoAh, then my statement wouldn't apply. My mistake.