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While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide we

While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide web at their fingertips. That perspective brings us to a different question: What can we do to ensure safe and positive sexual development in children without censoring the web and imposing our generation's morals on the next?

guard-of-terra 14y ago
I don't see anyone asking this question sadly. People who take the banned of protecting children from porn usually do this not from the safety & positivity point of view but from church & "morals" one. That's the most putrid, patronizing and hypicritical kind of people available; moreover, they don't see (or care) the relation of law and its effect (those two rarely match perfectly, sometimes not at all) and naturally they push for the measures I listed. People who could ask this question never get any saying.
zalew 14y ago
> While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide web at their fingertips. what the web has to do with it? as a teenager I could buy hardcore porn magazines without any problems.
- shardling 14y ago
  The answer to this question is contained within the article.
- freshhawk 14y ago
  Right, and because I could buy reference books as a kid without any problems that means that the web has not enabled me to learn more subjects in more depth in less time and meant that I don't spend more time learning than I did before? Are you really making this argument on HN of all places? That behaviour doesn't have the ability to fluctuate wildly with only small differences in friction (not a pun!)?
ChikkaChiChi 14y ago
How about responsible parenting teaching our children the concepts of boundaries and moderation?
- guard-of-terra 14y ago
  I doubt you can apply moderation to your sex life. You can moderate your intake of cookies; but limiting yourself to one kind of porn and not the other doesn't feel a working solution. You can try to limit your porn consumption to once per a period of time (a week?) but I bet it will make the symptoms worse.
  - klibertp 14y ago
    It's perfectly possible to limit yourself to one kind of porn - just find the kind of porn you really enjoy and use it for when you can't do it in a bedroom. There is a very fancy word for being addicted to being intoxicated, no matter with what (I forgot the word for now). Being addicted to all kinds of porn at once seems similar - and, frankly, equally rare.
    - guard-of-terra 14y ago
      If it's a rare case, why don't we optimize for the common case and have some special treatment for the outlying?

guard-of-terra 14y ago

I don't see anyone asking this question sadly. People who take the banned of protecting children from porn usually do this not from the safety & positivity point of view but from church & "morals" one. That's the most putrid, patronizing and hypicritical kind of people available; moreover, they don't see (or care) the relation of law and its effect (those two rarely match perfectly, sometimes not at all) and naturally they push for the measures I listed. People who could ask this question never get any saying.

zalew 14y ago

> While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide web at their fingertips. what the web has to do with it? as a teenager I could buy hardcore porn magazines without any problems.

shardling 14y ago
The answer to this question is contained within the article.
freshhawk 14y ago
Right, and because I could buy reference books as a kid without any problems that means that the web has not enabled me to learn more subjects in more depth in less time and meant that I don't spend more time learning than I did before? Are you really making this argument on HN of all places? That behaviour doesn't have the ability to fluctuate wildly with only small differences in friction (not a pun!)?

ChikkaChiChi 14y ago

How about responsible parenting teaching our children the concepts of boundaries and moderation?

guard-of-terra 14y ago
I doubt you can apply moderation to your sex life. You can moderate your intake of cookies; but limiting yourself to one kind of porn and not the other doesn't feel a working solution. You can try to limit your porn consumption to once per a period of time (a week?) but I bet it will make the symptoms worse.
- klibertp 14y ago
  It's perfectly possible to limit yourself to one kind of porn - just find the kind of porn you really enjoy and use it for when you can't do it in a bedroom. There is a very fancy word for being addicted to being intoxicated, no matter with what (I forgot the word for now). Being addicted to all kinds of porn at once seems similar - and, frankly, equally rare.
  - guard-of-terra 14y ago
    If it's a rare case, why don't we optimize for the common case and have some special treatment for the outlying?