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This isn't about revenge. It's about dealing with a breech of trust and a massive conflict of interest. I don't want my business depending on someone I can't t

by donw 14y ago

This isn't about revenge. It's about dealing with a breech of trust and a massive conflict of interest. I don't want my business depending on someone I can't trust, especially if that someone is going to be on the opposite side of a massive legal battle (divorce, in this case). The owner of the company would be irresponsible to allow his employee to continue while the situation is unresolved; at a minimum, he'd be suspended until after the divorce proceedings complete. Frankly, I'd get rid of him on the deception and dishonesty alone, because keeping that kind of employee around is a disservice to the rest of the company.

greggman 14y ago
It's never that simple. Was the husband an asshole and the other guy was the wife's shoulder to cry on? There are plenty of scenarios where the employee would feel justified in his actions. That's not a breach of trust. It's the messy world of relationships.
- pekk 14y ago
  Regardless of whether the husband was an asshole or the employee feels justified, no one is ENTITLED to sleep with the dude's wife without repercussions.
- clarky07 14y ago
  It doesn't matter if the husband was an asshole. If she divorced him and later decided to start a relationship with this guy that's one thing. There is no scenario where it's ok to screw another man's wife, and you have to be a real idiot to be screwing your boss's wife. It is most definitely a breach of trust.
- rogerbinns 14y ago
  Indeed I would point out that the marriage contract was between the husband and wife. It was the marriage contract that was broken and it was the wife who broke it. The employee had no contract with the husband regarding who he had sex with. Assuming the employee was unmarried he broke no contracts with anyone. Would the employee be fired for adultery with anyone else? Would other employees be fired for it? Ultimately the employee is guilty of moral turpitude, and the employer should apply the same rules on everyone regarding it.
- colmvp 14y ago
  At one of my old jobs, a co-worker who was also our bosses best friend had intimate relations with the bosses wife. Now, obviously it's inexcusable. But then it's complicated. My boss worked and traveled a lot, leaving his stay at home wife alone and lonely in a city where she didn't have many friends and was also pretty young. And my coworker had been friends with both of them for a long time and was also quite lonely. My coworker ended up leaving the company, while my boss separated from his wife for a few months before reconciling things and moving back into together. Trust is a hard thing to regain after its lost but they seemed to have worked it out. Prior to that incident I had a very black and white view of adultery and to some extent I still do. But now I understand circumstances can be very tough for some, and I can't judge them for the vulnerabilities that afflict humans.

by donw 14y ago

greggman 14y ago

It's never that simple. Was the husband an asshole and the other guy was the wife's shoulder to cry on? There are plenty of scenarios where the employee would feel justified in his actions. That's not a breach of trust. It's the messy world of relationships.

pekk 14y ago
Regardless of whether the husband was an asshole or the employee feels justified, no one is ENTITLED to sleep with the dude's wife without repercussions.
clarky07 14y ago
It doesn't matter if the husband was an asshole. If she divorced him and later decided to start a relationship with this guy that's one thing. There is no scenario where it's ok to screw another man's wife, and you have to be a real idiot to be screwing your boss's wife. It is most definitely a breach of trust.
rogerbinns 14y ago
Indeed I would point out that the marriage contract was between the husband and wife. It was the marriage contract that was broken and it was the wife who broke it. The employee had no contract with the husband regarding who he had sex with. Assuming the employee was unmarried he broke no contracts with anyone. Would the employee be fired for adultery with anyone else? Would other employees be fired for it? Ultimately the employee is guilty of moral turpitude, and the employer should apply the same rules on everyone regarding it.
colmvp 14y ago
At one of my old jobs, a co-worker who was also our bosses best friend had intimate relations with the bosses wife. Now, obviously it's inexcusable. But then it's complicated. My boss worked and traveled a lot, leaving his stay at home wife alone and lonely in a city where she didn't have many friends and was also pretty young. And my coworker had been friends with both of them for a long time and was also quite lonely. My coworker ended up leaving the company, while my boss separated from his wife for a few months before reconciling things and moving back into together. Trust is a hard thing to regain after its lost but they seemed to have worked it out. Prior to that incident I had a very black and white view of adultery and to some extent I still do. But now I understand circumstances can be very tough for some, and I can't judge them for the vulnerabilities that afflict humans.