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This is an extremely difficult problem, and it goes a lot deeper than "prosecute teh boys!!". They're able to shame sluts because _we_ shame sluts, as a cultur
by menacingly 14y ago
This is an extremely difficult problem, and it goes a lot deeper than "prosecute teh boys!!".
They're able to shame sluts because _we_ shame sluts, as a culture. The roots of it are way social and way deep.
The actual thing that's happening, though, is frightening and damned-near unfightable.
It's classic and shitty adolescent behavior through a nation-wide megaphone.
We have to prevent kids from using hard drugs because it's literally not possible for them to adequately weigh the trade-offs and make an informed decision.
I'd say that posing in a picture smiling next to a penis (like a girl did in this story) is a similar problem. They are not equipped to make that decision.
As a parent of a daughter, it's terrifying to think that this decision might ever be one that's hers to make. I'd like to think she'd never do it, but it's not even a decision that will be made like you or I would make it.
Children don't think like adults. That's why we protect them. Apples go in and stupid square oranges come out. As much as possible, they should avoid the position, and as much as possible, we should avoid the consequences having to follow them for a lifetime.
- king_jester 14y agoI agree with you about a culture of slut shaming in the US, but I don't agree with the idea of protecting young folks for their own sexuality. The issue here isn't that young people have or enjoy sex, but rather about a culture that promotes harassment against women for being sexual and uses that as a way to keep those women invisible.
- menacingly 14y agoconsciously posing in a photo next to a penis for posterity (which is, after all, what a photo is) has consequences that extend _far_ beyond your sexuality. This isn't about getting sheepish about teen sex, it's about long-term destructive decisions that aren't even necessary for pleasure.