I'm the lead developer for Set For Marriage (https://www.setformarriage.com https://www.setformarriage.com), and we've thought a LOT about these issues. We do

I'm the lead developer for Set For Marriage (https://www.setformarriage.com https://www.setformarriage.com), and we've thought a LOT about these issues. We do charge people a subscription fee to be able to start conversations, but it does seem pretty unfair for people to have to pay to reply so we don't require a subscription to reply to messages. I agree with waxman that the "browse-and-message" thing is kind of played out (winks are too), so we're working on some ideas to help people find partners and interact without requiring them to fill out a giant questionnaire or spend hours copy and pasting a message to every potential partner on the site.