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> "What part of the list above is worth hating?" On the surface, "don't be nice" appears pretty douchey. I suppose it's possible the poster just poorly commun
by lotharbot 14y ago
> "What part of the list above is worth hating?"
On the surface, "don't be nice" appears pretty douchey.
I suppose it's possible the poster just poorly communicated, and there's a reasonable concept (like "don't be 'fake-nice', be genuinely kind") hiding behind that bad phraseology. If so, it's up to the prior poster to clarify.
- tdfx 14y ago> On the surface, "don't be nice" appears pretty douchey. Very true, but I think the broader point is to avoid being the stereotypical "nice guy" towards women. For better or worse, being "overly nice" or eager to please is a low-confidence move, something that does not appear to be valued by many women.
- Mz 14y agoRandom thought: In dating terms, "nice guy" seems to equal "doesn't push for sex" and "bad boy" seems to be "is definitely looking for sex". I am wondering if what is intended by "don't be nice" is along the lines of "be up front about the fact that you are interested in sex".
- eru 14y agoUp front, but do not bother them with more attempts after getting a clear no. Put her into the friend-zone pro-actively, if you like her enough to hang out, or ignore her, if you are not actually interested in non-romantic activities. But move on.