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Thanks, very thoughtful post, indeed I think it is a market. My point is that there are attributes of mine which rule out women who I find at least vaguely att

Thanks, very thoughtful post, indeed I think it is a market. My point is that there are attributes of mine which rule out women who I find at least vaguely attractive (and I'm not being picky, honestly), so perhaps I'm simply not able to compete in this market. I wish the physical factors such as height weren't such a big factor, as that is obviously impossible to change. If I believed I could eliminate it, I'd gladly start hitting the gym hard right now. But I am so convinced that it's such a huge thing that I find it very hard to believe that'll make all that much difference.

jules 14y ago
I can assure you that a fit small body is more attractive than an unfit large one to a sizable amount of people (for what it's worth, Tom Cruise is not tall either). From what I've heard the importance given to height may be a US phenomenon. It's still a plus elsewhere, but less so. Are you in the US? Height also varies a lot between countries: you would would be tall in Indonesia (average 5'2), but here in the Netherlands you would be quite small (average 6'1). My father and brother are also small (perhaps even smaller than you relative to the population average), but they are doing fine relationship wise. Not all is lost!
- singular 14y ago
  I wish I could believe that, but that hasn't been my experience, nor that of others. I would gladly lose weight and hit the gym hard if I believed that (and I have done in the past, only for all + any health/fitness improvements to make no difference.) I'm in the UK, average is around 5'10" here. I am in bottom 2.5% of male population height-wise. Tom Cruise is considered to be rather good looking + confident is he not? He's a good example of the factors which can counteract short height. Note he's a couple inches taller than me also :-)

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Thanks, very thoughtful post, indeed I think it is a market. My point is that there are attributes of mine which rule out women who I find at least vaguely att

by singular 14y ago

jules 14y ago
I can assure you that a fit small body is more attractive than an unfit large one to a sizable amount of people (for what it's worth, Tom Cruise is not tall either). From what I've heard the importance given to height may be a US phenomenon. It's still a plus elsewhere, but less so. Are you in the US? Height also varies a lot between countries: you would would be tall in Indonesia (average 5'2), but here in the Netherlands you would be quite small (average 6'1). My father and brother are also small (perhaps even smaller than you relative to the population average), but they are doing fine relationship wise. Not all is lost!
- singular 14y ago
  I wish I could believe that, but that hasn't been my experience, nor that of others. I would gladly lose weight and hit the gym hard if I believed that (and I have done in the past, only for all + any health/fitness improvements to make no difference.) I'm in the UK, average is around 5'10" here. I am in bottom 2.5% of male population height-wise. Tom Cruise is considered to be rather good looking + confident is he not? He's a good example of the factors which can counteract short height. Note he's a couple inches taller than me also :-)