I just turned 36 and have recently felt a similar way, though I wouldn't go as far as to call myself a loser. I distilled my understanding of that dissatisfacti

I just turned 36 and have recently felt a similar way, though I wouldn't go as far as to call myself a loser. I distilled my understanding of that dissatisfaction down and realized that I'm always consuming nowadays (video games, reddit, HN, music, movies, food, etc.) and hardly producing anything. I think we're all defined by what we create and the best place to look when we're feeling out of sorts is in the fruits of our labor. I was always creating something when I was younger. A comic book in high school, short stories and poetry in college, and nothing significant now since about 2006 except for a huge home renovation and having two great kids. So, once I realized (within the past 4 months) that I've stopped being a creator and haven't been following my passions, I started taking steps to correct that. I just got accepted to grad school for Software Engineering, so hopefully that'll be the first step towards some significant progress, but I'm also trying to take on some personal projects. And when I say personal projects, I mean build something that YOU want to build, not something that someone else wants from you.