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Wow, sounds like you've hung out with a tough crowd. There's nothing wrong with being proud of your work, and I'm terribly sorry some rude people have tried to

by RegEx 14y ago

Wow, sounds like you've hung out with a tough crowd. There's nothing wrong with being proud of your work, and I'm terribly sorry some rude people have tried to take that away from you through such dishonest means. Keep your chin up :)

Mz 14y ago
Most of that has been on the Internet. I was seemingly popular in certain online forums. I found that just trying to be genuine and talk with people and say "thanks" when complimented fueled ugly attacks from folks who weren't fans. The attacks dropped off when I stopped saying things like "thanks" but it also left me in a position where most people seem to not know how to talk to me at all. I am only just now making in roads into getting people to actually talk to me again. It has been very very tough. But it seems to be improving.
- 13rules 14y ago
  1) Respond to genuine compliments with genuine appreciation 2) Ignore the haters
  - Mz 14y ago
    Thank you. Unfortunately, 2 does not work for my goals. Therefore, 1 does not either (I mean in public situations, on the Internet). For me, a partial answer is that I need to find a means to get attention off me, personally, and onto a body of work. The tricky part is that "leading by example" tends to keep me, personally, under discussion for some things. I am still working on it, but I had a fantastic epiphany from wearing a tweety bird shirt some months ago. It has been slow going and frustrating but I feel I am making progress.
    - illuminate 14y ago
      "Unfortunately, 2 does not work for my goals" Why not? "For me, a partial answer is that I need to find a means to get attention off me, personally, and onto a body of work." I'd suggest focusing more on your body of work, and less on the personal aspects that draw people away from it. From seeing some of your posts, I admit that the confessional nature of many can be distracting and you'd do better to avoid giving persons more information than is necessary.
      - Mz 14y ago
        Attempting to answer your stated question would likely fall under the "confessional nature" of posts which you have made it clear you view negatively. So I think it unlikely to be a productive conversation, for either of us. Which is unfortunate.
        RegEx 14y ago
        You honestly sound a bit dramatic here. Make sure you don't make the issue bigger than what it is.
        Mz 14y ago
        You likely are missing context. I am not "being dramatic".
        illuminate 14y ago
        Well, you have viewed the responses to them negatively. My point is that you're providing an anchor for others to detach you from whatever professional goals you're attempting to reach here. Sometimes it's useful to discuss where you came from as a starting place, but it's not often necessary. Just focus on the specifics of where you're going and it'll be easier to be productive without concern for what internet people think of you ~personally~. I hope I'm conveying that properly.
- RegEx 14y ago
  It's hard to develop a thick skin. I get my feelings legitimately hurt by people, even online. I don't deal with confrontation well at all. The best I can do is make sure I don't instigate conflict needlessly, and be sure to hang around nice people.
  - Mz 14y ago
    My skin is pretty thick. That doesn't change the fact that a big enough "fire" is potentially dangerous, not just for me but also for other people. I loathe confrontation but I deal with it pretty well. That isn't really the issue.

by RegEx 14y ago

Mz 14y ago

Most of that has been on the Internet. I was seemingly popular in certain online forums. I found that just trying to be genuine and talk with people and say "thanks" when complimented fueled ugly attacks from folks who weren't fans. The attacks dropped off when I stopped saying things like "thanks" but it also left me in a position where most people seem to not know how to talk to me at all. I am only just now making in roads into getting people to actually talk to me again. It has been very very tough. But it seems to be improving.

13rules 14y ago
1) Respond to genuine compliments with genuine appreciation 2) Ignore the haters
- Mz 14y ago
  Thank you. Unfortunately, 2 does not work for my goals. Therefore, 1 does not either (I mean in public situations, on the Internet). For me, a partial answer is that I need to find a means to get attention off me, personally, and onto a body of work. The tricky part is that "leading by example" tends to keep me, personally, under discussion for some things. I am still working on it, but I had a fantastic epiphany from wearing a tweety bird shirt some months ago. It has been slow going and frustrating but I feel I am making progress.
  - illuminate 14y ago
    "Unfortunately, 2 does not work for my goals" Why not? "For me, a partial answer is that I need to find a means to get attention off me, personally, and onto a body of work." I'd suggest focusing more on your body of work, and less on the personal aspects that draw people away from it. From seeing some of your posts, I admit that the confessional nature of many can be distracting and you'd do better to avoid giving persons more information than is necessary.
    - Mz 14y ago
      Attempting to answer your stated question would likely fall under the "confessional nature" of posts which you have made it clear you view negatively. So I think it unlikely to be a productive conversation, for either of us. Which is unfortunate.
      - RegEx 14y ago
        You honestly sound a bit dramatic here. Make sure you don't make the issue bigger than what it is.
        Mz 14y ago
        You likely are missing context. I am not "being dramatic".
      - illuminate 14y ago
        Well, you have viewed the responses to them negatively. My point is that you're providing an anchor for others to detach you from whatever professional goals you're attempting to reach here. Sometimes it's useful to discuss where you came from as a starting place, but it's not often necessary. Just focus on the specifics of where you're going and it'll be easier to be productive without concern for what internet people think of you ~personally~. I hope I'm conveying that properly.
RegEx 14y ago
It's hard to develop a thick skin. I get my feelings legitimately hurt by people, even online. I don't deal with confrontation well at all. The best I can do is make sure I don't instigate conflict needlessly, and be sure to hang around nice people.
- Mz 14y ago
  My skin is pretty thick. That doesn't change the fact that a big enough "fire" is potentially dangerous, not just for me but also for other people. I loathe confrontation but I deal with it pretty well. That isn't really the issue.