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"""You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on yo

by sharmi 14y ago

"""You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.""" Cool mom. She is trying to be a responsible parent by guiding her son in the right direction. It is commendable that she is talking straight about issues. You might not agree with her style (in such case, I believe you are not a parent, yet ;) ) but the alternative of letting the kid learn it by experience is downright scary. The way I see it, she is just laying down the ground rules under the belief and trust that the kid will follow. She is not policing him.

fossuser 14y ago
The ground rules are a bit oppressive. Kids need autonomy in their lives just like adults. Some of the rules are fine, but some are overreaching. 2. I will always know the password. Really? So no privacy. 4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. 7:30? If the kid has a computer this is basically pointless anyway, if the kid doesn't have a computer he's missing out on a lot. 5. It does not go to school with you. Convenient to have a phone in school to call to organize rides with parents/be contactable in emergency/ look up necessary information etc. 9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Kids are not the same people with their parents and peers or parents and boy/girl friends. 10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person – preferably me or your father. Not even going to bother with this one. 14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. This is one of those afraid of technology rules, a phone is a convenience not an addiction and is something there's no reason to not always have with you.

by sharmi 14y ago

fossuser 14y ago

The ground rules are a bit oppressive. Kids need autonomy in their lives just like adults. Some of the rules are fine, but some are overreaching. 2. I will always know the password. Really? So no privacy. 4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. 7:30? If the kid has a computer this is basically pointless anyway, if the kid doesn't have a computer he's missing out on a lot. 5. It does not go to school with you. Convenient to have a phone in school to call to organize rides with parents/be contactable in emergency/ look up necessary information etc. 9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Kids are not the same people with their parents and peers or parents and boy/girl friends. 10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person – preferably me or your father. Not even going to bother with this one. 14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. This is one of those afraid of technology rules, a phone is a convenience not an addiction and is something there's no reason to not always have with you.