And I apologize if you really do see this as an issue that needs to be tackled, and if you do something about it whenever you are in a context to do so. But to

And I apologize if you really do see this as an issue that needs to be tackled, and if you do something about it whenever you are in a context to do so. But to often I see this same response to allegations of sexism online - admitting that it's a problem in the general case while undermining the woman's argument in the particulars. You could even possibly be right in this case, but by taking the approach of poking holes in women's complaints, you're undermining their point in general. Worse, it strays dangerously near "blame the victim" mentality... "if only she hadn't been so inexperienced/emotional/womanly". Regardless of the truth of it, it's actively harmful to genuinely addressing the problem.