English is my first language. I have always found this discrepancy deeply unsettling. A personal problem on my part I'm sure. I think the issue is that there

English is my first language. I have always found this discrepancy deeply unsettling. A personal problem on my part I'm sure. I think the issue is that there are rules but they're really complicated. So nobody learns them. And then they teach kids by cultural taboo violation. "The letter 'c' makes two sounds. An 's' sound and a 'k' sound." Atlantic osean. "Wrong! It's Atlantic oshean! Why are you wrong!" Then iterate for 20 years. YouTube videos talking about linguistics and history have been a significant eye opener about the source for half a lifetime of frustration.