FWIW I'm the founder of both the Snikket and Prosody projects. If you're a FreeBSD user, or even an experienced hands-on Linux sysadmin, I'd probably recommend

FWIW I'm the founder of both the Snikket and Prosody projects. If you're a FreeBSD user, or even an experienced hands-on Linux sysadmin, I'd probably recommend going with Prosody, unless docker is your thing. Snikket aimed to fill the gap for people who wanted an "out of the box" XMPP distribution kind of thing, and it's good at that. But shipping a bunch of software components with opinionated configurations doesn't really mesh well with distribution-level package management, and only really works with a container kind of ecosystem. Both routes exist and are equally viable. Prosody has ports available for all the popular BSDs, and installing it should be a breeze. Just be prepared to then also set up a TURN server if you want calls, and potentially some web server stuff to if you want some of those features. After installing Prosody you can run 'prosodyctl check features' and it will tell you if you're missing any of the common stuff people want in a modern messaging app. Hope this helps :)