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If you're male (or want to dance as a leader), there are universally not enough of you to go around in partner dancing (with occasional exceptions), so any part

If you're male (or want to dance as a leader), there are universally not enough of you to go around in partner dancing (with occasional exceptions), so any partner dance you pick you should be well received if you aren't a creep and just do the work to improve. Some of these dances are easier to get into than others. So your area might have salsa classes. Salsa is nice because it's easy to get into, but you can keep getting better at it forever. Bachata is similar but it's a bit more intimate in my view, so depends what you're after. Some places just have "social dancing" classes, which is a different thing each week, but they might require you bring a partner, so look into it. If you're from the US, or less commonly outside of the US, line dancing is a non-partner dance, so a group dance. One of my best friends does it and he loves it. Again don't need to be good to start.

kukkeliskuu 12d ago
Even if for most areas and most partner dances, there are less leaders than followers, this is not universally true. For instance in Turkey and Buenos Aires, there are many tourists of both sexes, while local women are culturally biased not to participate while local men are culturally biased to participate, hence creating a different gender balance.
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y-curious 12d ago
Why are there less leaders generally? That is not intuitive to me since it feels like men generally want to fill that role in any context. Are there just less male dancers?
- bryanlarsen 12d ago
  Yes, there are generally fewer male dancers. When the balance gets skewed too hard one way or another, lead/follow becomes less sex-discriminated. Which usually means that women lead too. But in the past few years it's become much more acceptable for men to follow as well, at least in some contexts.
- divan 12d ago
  My 2 cents on this question – it's easier to learn the follower part: you get some basics and then go to social dances events and practice with a good leaders. But to learn the leader part you can't just go to dance events and practice with good followers. It takes more deliberate practice in classes to get the leading part.
- alansaber 12d ago
  There are just fewer male dancers. I've gone to events with insane ratios either way (3x more leaders/followers) but it's rare. Usually there are more leaders at the beginner level and decreasing amounts as you go up (but more followers who can also lead to mitigate).
- edgyquant 12d ago
  Every group thing where men play a big part alongside women or kids have a shortage of men. Men are simply way less social than women in today’s world.
- vesterde 12d ago
  To address all of the peer comments at the same time: I don't know. There are places where men dancing is gay-ish and that deters them. That's an easy answer, but it's not enough because very progressive countries don't do much better on this, by my experience. I would agree learning to follow in the very beginning can be easier, so that sounds like maybe men don't remain because their job is harder, but I wouldn't agree with this explanation because I observe fewer men showing up for beginner classes, when they don't know their job might is harder (whether or not it actually is). Maybe men are more asocial on average? I'd be willing to believe that, especially in these times. A comment above yours comments that this isn't true in Turkey, Buenos Aires, and I would add Paris to this list from experience, and then there's the entire continent of Africa we haven't mentioned and I can't really comment on, but what those places have in common is a cultural presence of dance, often a deep connection to dance where families dance together, maybe mom dances when she's cooking, dance isn't something you pick up as an exotic hobby, it's just that thing everyone does, and maybe you decide to do it a bit more than others. Every culture with a lot of cultural dance presence would have a different view on this, I suspect.
pranit1 11d ago
Salsa is definitely not easy to get into, at least as lead. Salsa music itself is quite complicated for beginners and to keep time and lead moves all while having to improv on the spot. its a really tough partner dance imo. but the rewards are that much more satisfying once you get out of the beginners hell.

kukkeliskuu 12d ago

Even if for most areas and most partner dances, there are less leaders than followers, this is not universally true. For instance in Turkey and Buenos Aires, there are many tourists of both sexes, while local women are culturally biased not to participate while local men are culturally biased to participate, hence creating a different gender balance.

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y-curious 12d ago

Why are there less leaders generally? That is not intuitive to me since it feels like men generally want to fill that role in any context. Are there just less male dancers?

bryanlarsen 12d ago
Yes, there are generally fewer male dancers. When the balance gets skewed too hard one way or another, lead/follow becomes less sex-discriminated. Which usually means that women lead too. But in the past few years it's become much more acceptable for men to follow as well, at least in some contexts.
divan 12d ago
My 2 cents on this question – it's easier to learn the follower part: you get some basics and then go to social dances events and practice with a good leaders. But to learn the leader part you can't just go to dance events and practice with good followers. It takes more deliberate practice in classes to get the leading part.
alansaber 12d ago
There are just fewer male dancers. I've gone to events with insane ratios either way (3x more leaders/followers) but it's rare. Usually there are more leaders at the beginner level and decreasing amounts as you go up (but more followers who can also lead to mitigate).
edgyquant 12d ago
Every group thing where men play a big part alongside women or kids have a shortage of men. Men are simply way less social than women in today’s world.
vesterde 12d ago
To address all of the peer comments at the same time: I don't know. There are places where men dancing is gay-ish and that deters them. That's an easy answer, but it's not enough because very progressive countries don't do much better on this, by my experience. I would agree learning to follow in the very beginning can be easier, so that sounds like maybe men don't remain because their job is harder, but I wouldn't agree with this explanation because I observe fewer men showing up for beginner classes, when they don't know their job might is harder (whether or not it actually is). Maybe men are more asocial on average? I'd be willing to believe that, especially in these times. A comment above yours comments that this isn't true in Turkey, Buenos Aires, and I would add Paris to this list from experience, and then there's the entire continent of Africa we haven't mentioned and I can't really comment on, but what those places have in common is a cultural presence of dance, often a deep connection to dance where families dance together, maybe mom dances when she's cooking, dance isn't something you pick up as an exotic hobby, it's just that thing everyone does, and maybe you decide to do it a bit more than others. Every culture with a lot of cultural dance presence would have a different view on this, I suspect.

pranit1 11d ago

Salsa is definitely not easy to get into, at least as lead. Salsa music itself is quite complicated for beginners and to keep time and lead moves all while having to improv on the spot. its a really tough partner dance imo. but the rewards are that much more satisfying once you get out of the beginners hell.