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What's Happening, Facebook? You're turning me into an asshole, that's what

9 points by ssclafani 14y ago

kcbanner 14y ago
When is it acceptable to use ALL CAPS!?!? in a post like this?
tuxidomasx 14y ago
I wouldn't blame Facebook for having bad judgement. It's wise to be discreet in your opinion on a public forum... especially if you care what the people who read it may think about you afterwards.
JoelMarsh 14y ago
I love that Facebook is blamed for making one's internal dialogue external. That's not Facebook MAKING you an asshole. That's Facebook REVEALING you're an asshole. I think Facebook is guilty of a lot of things, but this isn't one of them.
- hamburglar 14y ago
  Yeah, I started reading this, sympathetic to the fact that facebook is changing how we interact and expecting some kind of insightful revelation about it, and just ended up thinking, "it sounds like you're just kind of an asshole."
klibertp 14y ago
I'm very sorry for the author of this post. She clearly has messed up emotional and social life - she's hanging out with people incompatible with her but has an emotional attachment to them and can't bring herself to do what she should have done years ago: just forget about all those people (cousins, parents, sister, friend from high school), remove their phone numbers and block their very first attempts of "friending" on Facebook. Not talking about someone's thoughts is not the way to go; why would you want to be around people who don't want to know what you think? Why would you want to be friends with people who are offended easily? If anything, Facebook did her a favor: it showed her how toxic and dysfunctional her relations were. It's time to end those relations and move along with life - with or without Facebook, which doesn't matter, as long long as it is with the right people.
macavity23 14y ago
It's interesting what Total Information Awareness does to relationships. I'm reminded of the (excellent) episode of Black Mirror, 'The Entire History of You', which is apparently available in full on YouTube here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImbpjWRMy2k http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImbpjWRMy2k
- greenyoda 14y ago
  YouTube says that this video is not available in the U.S.
javajosh 14y ago
It's more about culture than Facebook when social ties (especially family bonds) are so weak that they can be broken with a status update.
jeffehobbs 14y ago
One might as well blame the <input> box. No, seriously -- there's a context-free aspect ("Write a comment...") of a blank comment box that invites all range of interaction, positive and negative, relevant and not. Imagine if instead of a blank <input> box, users were prompted with a question ("Do you also like ice cream?") or statement ("Leave your condolences...") that guided the relevancy of the response.
hudell 14y ago
I have some people like that on my life, but I would never tell them that kind of stuff, even though I think the same. I just ignore them. I have them added to my facebook, but unscribed from their posts, have them on my "restricted list" (who can not se what I post) and out of my chat list. To all effects, they think I just don't use my facebook.
jokino 14y ago
Fk them all. You don't need anything to do with these christian retards. "Even" if they're family. And you should have closed you FB account like, three years ago. Facebook is the kingdom of morons.

9 points by ssclafani 14y ago

When is it acceptable to use ALL CAPS!?!? in a post like this?

I wouldn't blame Facebook for having bad judgement. It's wise to be discreet in your opinion on a public forum... especially if you care what the people who read it may think about you afterwards.

JoelMarsh 14y ago

I love that Facebook is blamed for making one's internal dialogue external. That's not Facebook MAKING you an asshole. That's Facebook REVEALING you're an asshole. I think Facebook is guilty of a lot of things, but this isn't one of them.

hamburglar 14y ago
Yeah, I started reading this, sympathetic to the fact that facebook is changing how we interact and expecting some kind of insightful revelation about it, and just ended up thinking, "it sounds like you're just kind of an asshole."

klibertp 14y ago

I'm very sorry for the author of this post. She clearly has messed up emotional and social life - she's hanging out with people incompatible with her but has an emotional attachment to them and can't bring herself to do what she should have done years ago: just forget about all those people (cousins, parents, sister, friend from high school), remove their phone numbers and block their very first attempts of "friending" on Facebook. Not talking about someone's thoughts is not the way to go; why would you want to be around people who don't want to know what you think? Why would you want to be friends with people who are offended easily? If anything, Facebook did her a favor: it showed her how toxic and dysfunctional her relations were. It's time to end those relations and move along with life - with or without Facebook, which doesn't matter, as long long as it is with the right people.

macavity23 14y ago

It's interesting what Total Information Awareness does to relationships. I'm reminded of the (excellent) episode of Black Mirror, 'The Entire History of You', which is apparently available in full on YouTube here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImbpjWRMy2k http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImbpjWRMy2k

greenyoda 14y ago
YouTube says that this video is not available in the U.S.

javajosh 14y ago

It's more about culture than Facebook when social ties (especially family bonds) are so weak that they can be broken with a status update.

jeffehobbs 14y ago

One might as well blame the <input> box. No, seriously -- there's a context-free aspect ("Write a comment...") of a blank comment box that invites all range of interaction, positive and negative, relevant and not. Imagine if instead of a blank <input> box, users were prompted with a question ("Do you also like ice cream?") or statement ("Leave your condolences...") that guided the relevancy of the response.

hudell 14y ago

I have some people like that on my life, but I would never tell them that kind of stuff, even though I think the same. I just ignore them. I have them added to my facebook, but unscribed from their posts, have them on my "restricted list" (who can not se what I post) and out of my chat list. To all effects, they think I just don't use my facebook.

jokino 14y ago

Fk them all. You don't need anything to do with these christian retards. "Even" if they're family. And you should have closed you FB account like, three years ago. Facebook is the kingdom of morons.