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> do nothing after work. why do you have to do something after work? do something because you feel like doing it, not because you feel like you have to. Escapi
by kulahan 1mo ago
> do nothing after work. why do you have to do something after work? do something because you feel like doing it, not because you feel like you have to.
Escapism. You SHOULD feel like you have to do some stuff. Our bodies are always aiming to relax, because conserving calories is an extremely effective survival method. We are hardwired to do nothing, in order to escape the burden of instead doing something.
- toomanyrichies 1mo ago> You SHOULD feel like you have to do some stuff. Gregor: It would be nice to do something. Sam: We are doing something. We're sitting here, waiting. "Ronin", 1998
- satvikpendem 1mo agoSitting sometimes is good, sitting always is not.
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- mvanbaak 1mo agoNot the OP, nor the quote from Ronin state that one should always sit
- satvikpendem 1mo agoI do not mean literally sitting. The article encourages complacency (metaphorically sitting around all day) which I disagree with.
- toomanyrichies 1mo ago"All day" and "always" are your words, not mine, and not those of the article's author.
- satvikpendem 1mo agoI'm not quoting the author's words but their mentality, which is clear to see in their post.
- toomanyrichies 1mo agoYou can't quote a mentality, and you're not a mind-reader. You're putting words in the author's mouth, and then arguing against them. Saying it's "clear to see" is just asking others to find your evidence for you.
- kulahan 1mo agoIt's just someone drawing conclusions based on what the author chose to write, which is common and fine.
- toomanyrichies 1mo agoDrawing conclusions is fine, if they're traceable to something on the page. This one started with "always" and "all day," which aren't in the post, and when that was pointed out it moved to the author's mentality. I can assign anyone any mentality I want, and it's impossible to prove me wrong.
- satvikpendem 1mo agoNo, they are my conclusions of what they said, which I have assumed is clear to see for others too. You are the one taking this simple interaction way too literally.
- toomanyrichies 1mo agoReading someone's words as written isn't being "too literal". With a blog post, as with this thread, it's actually the only thing there is to go on.
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- marssaxman 1mo agoYour body is, maybe, but we're not all the same. Making my body sit still and do nothing requires sustained, focused attention; action is the comfort state, and idleness the burden.
- Sohcahtoa82 1mo agoMeanwhile, my idleness is so ingrained that sometimes I can't even make myself do the things I WANT to do, like load up a game that I've been wanting to play. And I'm just tired...all the time. I do nothing and still I'm exhausted.
- nemomarx 1mo agoThat is pretty typical of depression, especially if you can't make yourself do activities you normally would enjoy or you stop feeling as much enjoyment from them Unfortunately I have no advice for it but I wish you good luck. We're all struggling lately
- tempo123456 1mo agoDo you know why? It might be worth figuring out. For me is is mild ME/CFS but for you maybe not (a good tell for CFS is if doing any exercise at all e.g. 1km walk makes you feel rough later. Not delayed muscle soreness or a stitch but more like a flu say). So many other things are possible like iron, thyroid, sleep apnea, ADHD, depression or burnout, long COVID, tropical illness. Maybe more. Finally it is totally morally OK not to be a 100% productive worker bee. A "cure" is not necessary but might be worth rabbit holing if you desire and have the energy.
- airstrike 1mo agoFWIW, I've been there too. One thing to realize is that action precedes motivation. The idea is to train yourself to do things you _don't_ want to do. You have authority over your body. You can tell it to do things it doesn't want to. You can walk into your bathroom and take a cold shower right now, on purpose. Your body doesn't want to, but it will yield if your mind tells it to. In fact, doing that will switch up your state into a different one, which is half of the work needed to feel better.
- BeetleB 1mo ago> Escapism. You SHOULD feel like you have to do some stuff. This word keeps coming up, coupled with things unrelated. The OP isn't saying "do nothing". He's saying "do what you want to do". If he wants to study mathematics, that's neither escapism nor "doing nothing".
- kulahan 1mo agoThe extreme majority of people don’t have some secret massive project they want to do and are weirdly choosing not to. There’s only one way to interpret this.
- john_strinlai 1mo ago>There’s only one way to interpret this. obviously not.
- tonyarkles 1mo agoNope, they might just want to clock out from work at 5pm and go ride their bike until sunset without giving a single shit about anything but the fresh air. Or go home and walk their kid to the park. Or throw a ball around the yard with the dog.
- SoftTalker 1mo agoExcept you've got to cut the grass, weed the flowerbeds, wash the car, do the laundy, cook dinner, do the dishes, etc.
- tonyarkles 1mo agoOr not tonight. If I didn’t enjoy yard care, I wouldn’t have a yard or I’d xeriscape or gravel + trees, or something. Laundry’s kind of a drag, mostly the folding part. Most of the time I enjoy cooking and tidying up afterwards; when I’m not in the mood I’ll do takeout or throw something from the freezer in. I’m not sure what you’re saying overall? Is it that those things you’ve listed are what stops people from having enjoyable lives where they do what they want?
- catuscubitus 1mo agoCall that conserving energy. Contrary to commonly-held belief, calories are a very ambiguous concept.
- rc5150 1mo agotell that to someone with an eating disorder.
- jknoepfler 1mo agoOr maybe people like to stare at the clouds while herding sheep. This is just bro-science half-baked evolutionary psychology bullshit. Personally I enjoy listening to the birds with a book in my hands.