It used to come up often several years ago. See some examples: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493179 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493179 htt

It used to come up often several years ago. See some examples: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493179 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493179 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493147 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19493147 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22759368 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22759368 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19090712 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19090712 In my experience, people who are heavily critical of it have not read the book, and are arguing either against articles espousing it, or have encountered what I call "The cult of NVC" at work. The NVC book is incredibly simple. But there is a sort of cult around it. People greatly expand what's in the book to things the author never claimed. I've even attended an NVC chapter in my city and it was somewhat off putting. If you're at all interested, read the book and avoid the cult. It's not a perfect book/framework, but I've yet to read a better framework. The downside of the book is it's relatively prescriptive, and doesn't cite research, or do a good job of explaining why the method often works. Other books do that, though. Had I read NVC by itself, I too would be a bit of a skeptic. It's only by reading other books that go deeper did I understand why NVC (usually) works.